I posted this in the private Carers board but got no response, so I hope it's all right to repost in this board. The private board is woefully quiet. I didn't especially want our niece Evie (batgirl) reading this, but I did want some feedback before we move Tuesday morning. We may not be online after that for 2 weeks or longer. We are taking her back to our home in Newfoundland. She's going to be living with us for an indefinite period. Evie was completely independent prior to reuniting with us, although struggling greatly. However, since we have come to stay with her, she has become increasingly dependent upon us. She rarely goes out without us, she rarely makes phone calls, she is afraid of being in the house alone, and so on. She is getting much better, but it's still a concern. Now we are moving back to our home, and we live on an acreage. Evie is also afraid to drive a car, so she will not be able to leave the acreage and go into the city on her own. I am very concerned about her becoming even more dependent on the acreage, with no one around except family. At least here, she is in a city and can go out if she chooses, meet with other people, and so forth. On the acreage it will be only the family and the various animals. Evie is making great strides in her healing process, and we are extremely proud of her. The doctors agree living with us is the best thing for her at the moment, and we are delighted to have her. To be honest, my maternal instinct wants to keep her with me forever, and my husband is extremely attached to her as well. However she does have to grow up sometime, and we don't want to do anything that will hinder her independence. Do any of you have similar issues with a spouse or family member relying on you too heavily? Are there things we can do to prevent it from becoming a long term problem? Thank you for any thoughts or suggestions in this matter.