hello I am recovering from co-dependency I have a desire for healthy relationships. I am learning a lot right now about the futility of trying to stay in freindships with those who I used to be codependent with...I used to hang out with a crowd and we used to smoke and do coke together. I got away from them except for one who I connected with the most...I have tried to maintain the friendship but it somehow seems weird now when your changing and someone else is staying the same and your looking to the future and there nostalgic about the past...I have thought of walking away before but I always go back out of fear of loneliness..now I am just wanting to step into a new world to see what else there is to see..its seems hard for me to do though because its not like she has been overtly abusive..it just feels more like a gut instinct saying let go...anyone relate.