You'll get a variety of responses here... some people are more blunt than others. The best advice is to take what you need and leave the rest. We're all supporters here. We know the PTSD beast. We know emotional numbing, push/pull, isolation, partners leaving. We've seen the moods swing and the minds change. We've seen our partners symptomatic, triggered, and sick. There comes a time when you make peace with it. It's almost zen. It is what it is. Sounds cold. It's not cold, it's real. Nobody is saying that we personally know it wasn't PTSD that made her leave. People are saying PTSD or no PTSD, a lot of people have breakups with no closure. Even if it was 200% PTSD, does it matter if she knows she hurt you? She left and hasn't spoken to you in 5 months. We're more concerned with your well being right now than hers. We don't like it when supporters are struggling. Being a supporter sucks. I've done it for years, and I know he loves me. However, I know any day my partner's switch could flip and he could bail. After he bails I would have to heal and move on. He can't handle his own emotions most of the time, so he would more than likely never be able to give me closure or comfort in a break up. He can't even comfort me when I'm having a bad day because it stresses him out. Ultimately, I'm responsible for my own emotions, feelings, and mental health. Never underestimate the power of letting it go.