shadesofgreen
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I think I just need support and friends right now.
He is 100% with the new girl. I guess the "take a break" turned into full on breakup when I wasn't looking - he didn't even address this with me. It's like I never existed. I can't do anything about that but let go of our love and plans. That hurts so much. He threw away plans to a great future.
I am very concerned because he seems to be manic. I never saw full manic when we were together, but this is not what happy looks like. I mentioned the Facebook posting before ... it started with one photo, and I thought, "meh." He never posted anything other than sports when we were together, and I am a professional, so I didn't post anything on my Facebook page. He is posting pictures of himself flipping off things in Washington, actively talking about his pot smoking, posting political rants - and his hours are awful. He's not sleeping still and drinking endlessly.
I am afraid that he's going to call me next week, when he returned from his "business trip" and needs something. I have always been an unconditional support to him - but that's the most unfair thing I've ever heard. He's only been to therapy once, he's not getting the support that he needs, and I, as the ex, cannot make that choice for him. He isn't being honest with his friends and family or this girl - they don't know his lows (yet).
I know part of me is afraid is he isn't going to call. And he isn't going to get help. This isn't about being with him anymore, because he looks, sounds, and exhibits some mentally unstable traits right now. I did call his local VA and they said if he wasn't an imminent danger to himself, they couldn't help him.
I am sick to my stomach over a man I used to love.
He is 100% with the new girl. I guess the "take a break" turned into full on breakup when I wasn't looking - he didn't even address this with me. It's like I never existed. I can't do anything about that but let go of our love and plans. That hurts so much. He threw away plans to a great future.
I am very concerned because he seems to be manic. I never saw full manic when we were together, but this is not what happy looks like. I mentioned the Facebook posting before ... it started with one photo, and I thought, "meh." He never posted anything other than sports when we were together, and I am a professional, so I didn't post anything on my Facebook page. He is posting pictures of himself flipping off things in Washington, actively talking about his pot smoking, posting political rants - and his hours are awful. He's not sleeping still and drinking endlessly.
I am afraid that he's going to call me next week, when he returned from his "business trip" and needs something. I have always been an unconditional support to him - but that's the most unfair thing I've ever heard. He's only been to therapy once, he's not getting the support that he needs, and I, as the ex, cannot make that choice for him. He isn't being honest with his friends and family or this girl - they don't know his lows (yet).
I know part of me is afraid is he isn't going to call. And he isn't going to get help. This isn't about being with him anymore, because he looks, sounds, and exhibits some mentally unstable traits right now. I did call his local VA and they said if he wasn't an imminent danger to himself, they couldn't help him.
I am sick to my stomach over a man I used to love.