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Wow! Interesting thread. Love this thread too.
I have CPTSD from childhood abuse and trauma. I used to be poly-fragmented DID and integrated in 2005-6. Much of my CPTSD comes from seeing many children die horrible deaths. My husband has ADHD and a history of childhood abandonment and neglect. He survived a nasty divorce which blindsided him. In spite of all of our histories, we have managed to stay married.
At one particular down point in the beginning of my discovery of my repressed abuse, my husband threatened to leave numerous times. We had only been married for four years. My therapist and his therapist had a joint session with us. They told my husband that if he wanted a marriage I had to be in therapy and go through whatever I was going through or there wouldn't be a marriage. They told my husband that his threats didn't help me because they created an unsafe place in our marriage. They essentially told him, either shit or get off the pot. In the end, my husband chose the shit end of the stick because he loved me. It was a rocky marriage for the next five years yet we both persevered.
We've had our ups and downs throughout our marriage. One time I left for 9 months one time because I needed to do some soul searching without anyone around. Another time I left for 3 weeks. Yet we managed to come back together stronger than before.
This year we celebrate our 32nd anniversary.
I have CPTSD from childhood abuse and trauma. I used to be poly-fragmented DID and integrated in 2005-6. Much of my CPTSD comes from seeing many children die horrible deaths. My husband has ADHD and a history of childhood abandonment and neglect. He survived a nasty divorce which blindsided him. In spite of all of our histories, we have managed to stay married.
At one particular down point in the beginning of my discovery of my repressed abuse, my husband threatened to leave numerous times. We had only been married for four years. My therapist and his therapist had a joint session with us. They told my husband that if he wanted a marriage I had to be in therapy and go through whatever I was going through or there wouldn't be a marriage. They told my husband that his threats didn't help me because they created an unsafe place in our marriage. They essentially told him, either shit or get off the pot. In the end, my husband chose the shit end of the stick because he loved me. It was a rocky marriage for the next five years yet we both persevered.
We've had our ups and downs throughout our marriage. One time I left for 9 months one time because I needed to do some soul searching without anyone around. Another time I left for 3 weeks. Yet we managed to come back together stronger than before.
This year we celebrate our 32nd anniversary.