LloydBraun
New Here
I have been with my girlfriend for 7 months now. She suffers from anxiety, depression and PTSD. She was open about all of that from the start and I am more than ok with that We connected deep down very quickly, talked about future stuff like living together and even marriage. I have 2 children and she has 1 child. It has felt like a family from the start. We were honest about our wants and needs out of a relationship, both of us were on the same page. I was very excited about finding a like minded woman. I am divorced and this wonderful woman brought out that romantic in me that I thought was dead and buried. She has been through bad relationships in the past, so it seems like she has a hard time believing I am for real. I've been consistent since the start. These past 2 months have been weird on her end. 2-3 weeks ago she said she needs space to figure everything out for her and her son. Everything I've read about depression says that this is kind of normal, but I don't understand how she can just change like that. The first 3-4 months we were on the same page. She'd send wedding ring links, dress links, talk about where we'd get married. Those texts were like a high, because I was feeling it too, still do. That is why I'm so confused. She said she is just as upset and confused by her change. She said she wasn't feeling the romance as much anymore. Is that depression related? Because she would tell me just a couple months ago how much a babe I am, how happy I make her and how she thought she would never find a guy like me. This sudden change has me feeling confused and kind of played in a way. She had this wonderful heartfelt tattoo tribute idea for her friend who passed away a few years ago. I told her that, that would be her valentines/bday gift. She got the tattoo, it meant a lot to her. Her friend was very important to her, still is in spirit. We also thought the tattoo would be very therapeutic for her. It was so great seeing her express some deep down feeling with that tribute. The timing of all this distance and questioning seems odd. She said she feels pressure about being a mom of 3 and potential wife. I just keep coming back to the thought that we shared just in December about building a future for us and our kids. Now she says she is confused on what she wants. She seemed very sure when we first started seeing each other what she wanted. Is this just a bad depression phase? Maybe the realness of everything is flaring up her anxiety or PTSD? It's tough for me since she was so sure of us and what she wanted in life just a couple months ago. In my thinking of this, it can either be that her mental illnesses are doing this or there is another guy somewhere in the picture or that she was just using me the whole time. The last two thoughts are based on my experience being cheated on by my ex wife. I truly believe this is mental illness hiccup on her part, just wish I could help her more. I don't want to make things worse by telling her what to do. I've been reading so many real life stories that sound exactly like what we are going through. This is real life stuff. What her and I felt right off the bat was the realest feeling I have ever had. She is worth going through this.
Thank you for reading!
Thank you for reading!