Glass Hill
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I'm new to the forum but have been reading your stories for weeks, you have all helped me understand and heal, thank you!
I met my BF in the summer and we became deeply connected quickly. He and I spend countless hours just talking. We had an intoxicating passion for each other, so many common interests, we were similar in many ways but unique to ourselves. His friends loved me and loved how happy he was, I was told many times that we were perfect for each other and we brought out the best.
I won't get into too many details but for me, at 39 years old I can tell you I believe I met my match, my partner in crime, my soul mate, my best friend.
Two weeks ago he broke up with me after a 4 month relationship. He said he couldn't commit to me or give me their assurance he would always be there for me and my daughter, he has many issues and does not deal with them, he self medicated and avoids. I am aware I cannot fix him, force him or change him. I have come to peace with the break up but hold out hope he may take the steps to help himself and maybe one day we can be together.
My question is this... Why would this once caring, loving man now have no compassion or empathy for me and start pointing out my life challenges to friends. He is unfairly judging me, making assumptions, and showing no remorse for breaking my heart.
He called me his dream girl, he praised me for how I walk through my life with strength and optimism and now he cuts me down at every chance with mutual friends. It is very hurtful. Is it because he needs to convince himself I am the problem instead of owning his own truth? Any insight would help. I miss him and knew what I was getting into but loved him regardless of his physical and mental problems.
I met my BF in the summer and we became deeply connected quickly. He and I spend countless hours just talking. We had an intoxicating passion for each other, so many common interests, we were similar in many ways but unique to ourselves. His friends loved me and loved how happy he was, I was told many times that we were perfect for each other and we brought out the best.
I won't get into too many details but for me, at 39 years old I can tell you I believe I met my match, my partner in crime, my soul mate, my best friend.
Two weeks ago he broke up with me after a 4 month relationship. He said he couldn't commit to me or give me their assurance he would always be there for me and my daughter, he has many issues and does not deal with them, he self medicated and avoids. I am aware I cannot fix him, force him or change him. I have come to peace with the break up but hold out hope he may take the steps to help himself and maybe one day we can be together.
My question is this... Why would this once caring, loving man now have no compassion or empathy for me and start pointing out my life challenges to friends. He is unfairly judging me, making assumptions, and showing no remorse for breaking my heart.
He called me his dream girl, he praised me for how I walk through my life with strength and optimism and now he cuts me down at every chance with mutual friends. It is very hurtful. Is it because he needs to convince himself I am the problem instead of owning his own truth? Any insight would help. I miss him and knew what I was getting into but loved him regardless of his physical and mental problems.
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