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He replaces me with p*rn

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My sufferer sometimes avoids sex with me for months and months, while watching porn instead.

I know that its easier for him to relax when it's a stranger he's looking at. He associates me with emotions and that makes sex difficult.

We have now come to a point where we watch it together sometimes during our sexually active periods. I have learned to put my insecurities aside and just enjoy that he wants to share this with me.

I still feel replaced when he does it alone during our sex-less periods. I have asked him to lay off it for a while during these dryspells but he lies and does it behind my back. The lies destroy the trust and make me resent him.

Would really appreciate your opinions. Am I beeing unreasonable? :confused:
 
My sufferer sometimes avoids sex with me for months and months, while watching porn instead.

I know that its easier for...

No, you are not being unreasonable.

My guy likes to watch porn. He realized it could be causing intimacy issues so he's laying off the porn as he wants to have a good sex life with me. I don't have a problem with his porn watching from a moral standpoint as it isn't replacing me. But, you better believe I'd have a problem with it if he was turning to porn instead of me!
 
My ex (who didn't have ptsd)and I didn't have sex for over a year while he turned to porn. One day I came home and threw all his bs videos out in the yard. That was the beginning of the end!

Found out after we divorced him and one of his friends would get prostitute's. Freaks that they were. I understand this is more extreme then your dilemma but it all sucks.

I wouldn't have a problem with it as long as I was having my needs met too.

Not to sure you can blame it on PTSD though.
 
My ex (who didn't have ptsd)and I didn't have sex for over a year while he turned to porn. One day I came home and threw...
Piso, I agree that it doesn't have to be caused by his ptsd. But I do think that he(because of the csa) has tendensies to be secretive about sex and have difficulty combining sex and emotion.

Might just be a man thing. There are plenty of men that haven't experienced CSA and are still secretive. Either way, I have to handle it differently with him. In a "normal" relationship I would have been upset about the lies. With him, I have to tread carefully, as I don't want to overflow his stresscup.
 
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My ex (who didn't have ptsd)and I didn't have sex for over a year while he turned to porn. One day I came home and threw...
I am sorry that you had to experience that Piso.
 
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