Freedomfighter
MyPTSD Pro
I've been seeing this guy for the last 2-3 months. Each time he forced himself on me. Initially I fe...
Okay, take a couple of big breaths, then think: there is no way that you would possibly ever want to be treated by anyone like that, logically no one would ask for something like that.
Secondly, someone like that has huge issues with women, most likely has visited many prostitutes (because those are the types of men that visit prostitutes: the ones that hate women are the ones that solicit from women like that) and has likely issues with his mommy. I see these types of guys at my workplace: all they have contact with are little bimbos at work, the ones that say o.k. after a couple of minutes. They only have experience with such women, then they literally think they can get away with that with others too. Believe me, such guys have an intense hate of women. Ask any prostitute: she may not agree openly, but every prostitute out there knows that the only clientele she gets are men who are frustrated that they can not land a real woman. Of course prostitutes would never admit that. But that is how it is.
So, there are two angles to this: you: never would you want to be treated like that by anyone, naturally you would never ask for a situation like that.
Second angle: here is a guy that has already violated you several times, that obviously has serious issues, and that obviously will not stop until he is stopped. The fact that he is attempting to contact you shows his absolute unwillingness to even accept that what he did was wrong.
And yes, he is trying to make you look like a slut, because that is the only type of woman he is used to. Such men are such loosers to begin with, they can only exist or function if they assault innocent women like you.
I am so very sorry he did all of this to you, that breaks a person on the inside. You may have to think of ways to defend yourself if he decides to show up, we all do not like to think about that, but it is a reality.
By the way, that is a statement that I am familiar with: why did he use me? That is normal for a victim to say. But then I pause and say: wait a minute, that is something different, I did not want that kind of treatment, someone has repeatedly forced himself onto me physically an mentally. So that is not someone that is using you, that is someone that is trying to take your freedom away without even letting you decide for yourself.
So therefore, you were not used: You were violated, never forget: that is exactly what a predator would like you to think: that he used you. Nope, huge difference there, he violated you.