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He Won - Yet I Caused The Breakup

Discussion in 'General' started by canucklady, Mar 16, 2007.

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  1. canucklady

    canucklady Active Member

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    he won, he said if he couldn't be with me, he would make sure no else would be with me. i left him after many years. now i cant trust any man. i can be intimate with any man. i broke up with my current bf because of this. would get so triggered when he got angry or try to get close to me. i broke his heart when i left him. the worse thing is i love him, but my mind and body would not let him get close. so had to leave. was hard to explain to him all the time why i was shaking or get scared over argument.
    he won
    i give up
    i will be alone forever
     
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  3. YoungAndAngry

    YoungAndAngry Well-Known Member

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    canucklady,

    Don't let him make you feel like a victim.
    You won when you left him!

    About your feelings about being alone forever... as unlikely as that is... what would be so bad about it?
    I constantly struggle right now with my boyfriend of 9 years, as my fears and lack of interest make intimate moments harder than they should be.
     
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    hang in there, there are some out there that can be supportive and understanding. i pray that you find one, if that's what you want.
    cathy
     
  5. moki

    moki Guest

    as horrible as a breakup is, it is also a new start. my marriage is in bigtime trouble and i don't know if i'll be able to save it or not. i have caused so much trouble this year with this weird behavior of mine, that the control over my life has been significantly reduced. I know if we break up it will be horribly traumatic; but another part of me thinks that it will be a chance to find out who i really am, all by myself.

    I don't think I've ever really been all my own person, ever. Always parents around telling me how to be; husband there with his own agenda I end up following, etc.

    Hang in there. really.
     
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