HI, Im Tony, male, 30's, supporter of girlfriend of 3 years with ptsd. She has had very abusive relationships ending up with one guy in prison.
I supported her through the trial, and I dont feel I've ever got over the stress from that alone. Had some medical issues too with hospitals etc, added stress. Loss of employment for both of us at one stage, lost contact with friends.
Shes had some therapy, not in it at the moment, whe wont take medication.
Things should be 'ok' money is not so tight, things looking up, in my eyes anyway.
We just cant stop arguing about various things and its destroying the relationship.
I feel like ive had enough, but the idea of splitting up is not good. I've sort of lost it more recently during arguments, i just flip out, screaming for her to leave me alone, sometimes I go to the other room to be on my own but she cant handle it and comes back for another round of arguing. I feel physicaly trapped when that happens and just get more shouty and wanting to be alone!! Arguing makes me soo physicaly tired now. Its a huge drain and then I cant function properly at work.
Im usualy left feeling its my fault, "im the one with ptsd, why are you been like this" etc, im not alowed to be in a bad mood if she has pissed me of for the unpteenth time or if its unrelated to her. If im down for any reason she thinks its her fault and the tension builds, its so tiresome. Shes constantly checking my mood as with previous partners bad mood meant she was going to get hit.
I get blamed for things, stupid things, but it makes me so angry. She knows she is not been fair but cant seem to stop or nip it in the bud so things always escalate.
Advice more than welcome
I supported her through the trial, and I dont feel I've ever got over the stress from that alone. Had some medical issues too with hospitals etc, added stress. Loss of employment for both of us at one stage, lost contact with friends.
Shes had some therapy, not in it at the moment, whe wont take medication.
Things should be 'ok' money is not so tight, things looking up, in my eyes anyway.
We just cant stop arguing about various things and its destroying the relationship.
I feel like ive had enough, but the idea of splitting up is not good. I've sort of lost it more recently during arguments, i just flip out, screaming for her to leave me alone, sometimes I go to the other room to be on my own but she cant handle it and comes back for another round of arguing. I feel physicaly trapped when that happens and just get more shouty and wanting to be alone!! Arguing makes me soo physicaly tired now. Its a huge drain and then I cant function properly at work.
Im usualy left feeling its my fault, "im the one with ptsd, why are you been like this" etc, im not alowed to be in a bad mood if she has pissed me of for the unpteenth time or if its unrelated to her. If im down for any reason she thinks its her fault and the tension builds, its so tiresome. Shes constantly checking my mood as with previous partners bad mood meant she was going to get hit.
I get blamed for things, stupid things, but it makes me so angry. She knows she is not been fair but cant seem to stop or nip it in the bud so things always escalate.
Advice more than welcome