Hi everyone I'm new to the site.
My fiancée was recently diagnosed with ptsd which has been left untreated for a number of years even decades. To be honest I don't even know where the ptsd has stemmed from but I think it is something to do with being neglected as a child or domestic abuse. I have tried speaking to her as to what the cause is but she does not want to talk about it.
My partner is never violent and she has recently started therapy and councilling. There are currently issues at work which are not helping her. She works for the police and has stopped driving marked cars and is double crewed for the time being which was her own choice. Now she wants to start driving again work have told her that she can't do this until she is signed off by the force medical officer (FMO). The FMO has said its not down to him and the driver unit have said its fine however her sergeant isn't allowing her to. This has posed a massive set back for her and today she is really struggling with the stress.
I have been shouted at this morning being told I am not supportive enough. I find it very difficult to know what to do in these circumstances. I have tried talking to her about it and she doesn't want to, nothing I say makes her feel better, I have tried holding her but I feel like she becomes very cold and unfeeling which in turn I guess makes me feel the same. I am struggling with what sorts of things I can do to support her. This morning I thought she might want space so I went down stairs which was evidently the wrong thing to do.
She's always telling me to go out and spend time with my friends so that I don't get bored of her but I want to be there to support her. She appears to understand when she has said the wrong thing etc and she is very worried about the impact this is having on the both of us.
I guess I am after a bit of advice on the best way to deal with the outbursts and provide support for her. Sorry for the massive rant it's just starting to get to me now and I'm struggling to know how to act around her. I try to be normal and carry on with day to day activities so that she can feel she is living a normal life but apparently this is also the wrong thing to do! Sorry again for the rant!!
My fiancée was recently diagnosed with ptsd which has been left untreated for a number of years even decades. To be honest I don't even know where the ptsd has stemmed from but I think it is something to do with being neglected as a child or domestic abuse. I have tried speaking to her as to what the cause is but she does not want to talk about it.
My partner is never violent and she has recently started therapy and councilling. There are currently issues at work which are not helping her. She works for the police and has stopped driving marked cars and is double crewed for the time being which was her own choice. Now she wants to start driving again work have told her that she can't do this until she is signed off by the force medical officer (FMO). The FMO has said its not down to him and the driver unit have said its fine however her sergeant isn't allowing her to. This has posed a massive set back for her and today she is really struggling with the stress.
I have been shouted at this morning being told I am not supportive enough. I find it very difficult to know what to do in these circumstances. I have tried talking to her about it and she doesn't want to, nothing I say makes her feel better, I have tried holding her but I feel like she becomes very cold and unfeeling which in turn I guess makes me feel the same. I am struggling with what sorts of things I can do to support her. This morning I thought she might want space so I went down stairs which was evidently the wrong thing to do.
She's always telling me to go out and spend time with my friends so that I don't get bored of her but I want to be there to support her. She appears to understand when she has said the wrong thing etc and she is very worried about the impact this is having on the both of us.
I guess I am after a bit of advice on the best way to deal with the outbursts and provide support for her. Sorry for the massive rant it's just starting to get to me now and I'm struggling to know how to act around her. I try to be normal and carry on with day to day activities so that she can feel she is living a normal life but apparently this is also the wrong thing to do! Sorry again for the rant!!