Hi there,
I am engaged to a man who has ptsd but won't admit there is a problem. He's always 'fine'.
The thing is he's not fine, he has nightmares all the time, during which he has been known to choke or assault me. He's angry a lot, I can't communicate my feelings as he just flips out and shouts at me and turns it all around to be my fault. This wouldn't be as bad if we didn't have a child at home. He is better with our boy than he is with me but sometimes he's just so snappy with him. I feel like I'm playing referee a lot of the time. I'm always on edge, I'm exhausted, I'm scared to sleep, scared to talk to him. I've been so so sad lately, I cry a lot because I think it has all just got on top of me you know? He ignores me when I'm upset and offers no comfort or empathy.
I am there for him all of the time, I listen on the rare occasions he talks to me, I don't push him to open up, I know that will come with time, I am compassionate and I know I will never understand what he has been through but I am struggling and I don't know what to do.
I'm sorry, I had to just get some things out. There's no-one I can talk to about this.if anyone has any advice at all it would be greatly appreciated.
G x
I am engaged to a man who has ptsd but won't admit there is a problem. He's always 'fine'.
The thing is he's not fine, he has nightmares all the time, during which he has been known to choke or assault me. He's angry a lot, I can't communicate my feelings as he just flips out and shouts at me and turns it all around to be my fault. This wouldn't be as bad if we didn't have a child at home. He is better with our boy than he is with me but sometimes he's just so snappy with him. I feel like I'm playing referee a lot of the time. I'm always on edge, I'm exhausted, I'm scared to sleep, scared to talk to him. I've been so so sad lately, I cry a lot because I think it has all just got on top of me you know? He ignores me when I'm upset and offers no comfort or empathy.
I am there for him all of the time, I listen on the rare occasions he talks to me, I don't push him to open up, I know that will come with time, I am compassionate and I know I will never understand what he has been through but I am struggling and I don't know what to do.
I'm sorry, I had to just get some things out. There's no-one I can talk to about this.if anyone has any advice at all it would be greatly appreciated.
G x