Excerpt out of the book Emotional Blackmail by Dr. Susan Forward
Do important people in your life:
Threaten to make your life difficult if you don't do what they want?
Constantly threatens to end the relationship if you don't do what they want?
Tell you or imply that they will neglect, hurt themselves or become depressed if you don't do as they want?
Always wants more, no matter how much you give them? (deffinately my late husband sure did this)
Regularly assume you will give in to them? (again my late husband did this)
Regularly ignore or discount your feelings and wants?
Make lavish promises that are contingent on your behaviour and then rarely keep them?
Consistently label you as selfish, bad, greedy, unfeeling or uncaring when don't give in to them?
Shower you with approval when you give in to them and take it away when you don't?
Use money as a weapon to get their way?
Do important people in your life:
Threaten to make your life difficult if you don't do what they want?
Constantly threatens to end the relationship if you don't do what they want?
Tell you or imply that they will neglect, hurt themselves or become depressed if you don't do as they want?
Always wants more, no matter how much you give them? (deffinately my late husband sure did this)
Regularly assume you will give in to them? (again my late husband did this)
Regularly ignore or discount your feelings and wants?
Make lavish promises that are contingent on your behaviour and then rarely keep them?
Consistently label you as selfish, bad, greedy, unfeeling or uncaring when don't give in to them?
Shower you with approval when you give in to them and take it away when you don't?
Use money as a weapon to get their way?