HëllaBubz
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I used to be a personal careri in 2008, and after a year and a half, I moved onto a Div II traineeship for nursing.
3 months in I was indecently assaulted by a coworker after weeks of sexual harassment and physical intimidation from him, and within 6 months of that, I had quit work with what my psych calls a 'full hand of PTSD', as I was unable to study, work alone, function, or even talk because I kept snapping my teeth together so hard that the enamel is really worn down.
The assault was in December of 2009, and I have finally cracked the shits and decided to 'get back on the horse', so to speak, after hearing an under the breath jibe from my brother in law to the effect of 'people who fall down should stay down.'
Needless to say, he is the poster child for workplace bullies and corporate tramplers who make other people quit work because he goes out of his way to TRY to get them to quit, merely because he doesn't like them.
That was last Thursday, and last night I was talking to a girlfriend of mine, who was in a horrific car crash which killed her mother instantly, and had her arm amputated and then reattached at the shoulder, when she was 17. She is now 30, married with 3 girls.
She was telling me that she wrote a cover letter after being told that she had too much in her way to ever work, explaining how her handicap was actually helping, and how she has managed milestones that the doctors told her would never happen, and to 'get used to never having the use of your arm or hand again.'
Needless to say, she got heaps of job offers because of her can-do attitude, and as she said to me, you should go back and prove to yourself that you can do it, because you are a fantastic carer/nurse, and the asshole who assaulted you should be having the nightmares and hell, not you......get back on the horse and go for it.
And for the first time in 3 years, I actually felt like I could do it, and that I was going to do it.:tup:
I've now found a nursing home less than 500m down the road from me, I had the interview 3 hours ago, and I start a trial shift tomorrow at 0700.
The only person who knows about my crap past is the receptionist, and as she said, they'll only judge you, if you're having a bad day, then don't feel bad, you're just having a bad day, she was fabulously supportive, and took a massive shine to me the moment we met, she said I'm like her little sister and she admires me so much for being so level headed, mature and coping with all the crap.:inlove:
And now to my question......how am I going to field questions about my past without revealing the shit that happened?
I don't want to talk about it with any of my new co-workers, but at the same time, I'm at a loss as to find something bland, non committal and generic to say if I get questioned, as I've always been and upfront and painfully honest person.:rolleyes:
Does anyone out there have any senarios and potential advice they could give me?
I'm only 22, I don't know enough about people and politics to play the game without some moral support, and I can't ask my partner, because he has never been in this situation, and so has been unable to give me relevant or useful information.
N.P. Please note that I am NOT bragging about the compliments I was given.....well maybe a little, compliments from strangers are so rare that I can't help preening my feathers a little in private! :notworthy::D
3 months in I was indecently assaulted by a coworker after weeks of sexual harassment and physical intimidation from him, and within 6 months of that, I had quit work with what my psych calls a 'full hand of PTSD', as I was unable to study, work alone, function, or even talk because I kept snapping my teeth together so hard that the enamel is really worn down.
The assault was in December of 2009, and I have finally cracked the shits and decided to 'get back on the horse', so to speak, after hearing an under the breath jibe from my brother in law to the effect of 'people who fall down should stay down.'
Needless to say, he is the poster child for workplace bullies and corporate tramplers who make other people quit work because he goes out of his way to TRY to get them to quit, merely because he doesn't like them.
That was last Thursday, and last night I was talking to a girlfriend of mine, who was in a horrific car crash which killed her mother instantly, and had her arm amputated and then reattached at the shoulder, when she was 17. She is now 30, married with 3 girls.
She was telling me that she wrote a cover letter after being told that she had too much in her way to ever work, explaining how her handicap was actually helping, and how she has managed milestones that the doctors told her would never happen, and to 'get used to never having the use of your arm or hand again.'
Needless to say, she got heaps of job offers because of her can-do attitude, and as she said to me, you should go back and prove to yourself that you can do it, because you are a fantastic carer/nurse, and the asshole who assaulted you should be having the nightmares and hell, not you......get back on the horse and go for it.
And for the first time in 3 years, I actually felt like I could do it, and that I was going to do it.:tup:
I've now found a nursing home less than 500m down the road from me, I had the interview 3 hours ago, and I start a trial shift tomorrow at 0700.
The only person who knows about my crap past is the receptionist, and as she said, they'll only judge you, if you're having a bad day, then don't feel bad, you're just having a bad day, she was fabulously supportive, and took a massive shine to me the moment we met, she said I'm like her little sister and she admires me so much for being so level headed, mature and coping with all the crap.:inlove:
And now to my question......how am I going to field questions about my past without revealing the shit that happened?
I don't want to talk about it with any of my new co-workers, but at the same time, I'm at a loss as to find something bland, non committal and generic to say if I get questioned, as I've always been and upfront and painfully honest person.:rolleyes:
Does anyone out there have any senarios and potential advice they could give me?
I'm only 22, I don't know enough about people and politics to play the game without some moral support, and I can't ask my partner, because he has never been in this situation, and so has been unable to give me relevant or useful information.
N.P. Please note that I am NOT bragging about the compliments I was given.....well maybe a little, compliments from strangers are so rare that I can't help preening my feathers a little in private! :notworthy::D