Hi everyone,
My partner has combat ptsd his currently not in a good head space.. not sure if his coming or going and is just wanting to take everything "easy" in life and with the relationship....we are still talking on the phone and seeing eachother on the weekend.....However im finding myself a little nervous like im worried i will say the wrong thing or he will get frustrated. Im usually a very big organiser and trying my best to just "chill" as a few ppl have said on the forums. Im wondering if anyone can help with providing me with strategies to approach my partner so he does not become frustrated,im just not liking to have to walk on egg shells when on the phone with him etc....things such as what not to talk about or to bring up in conversations, is it okay to talk about whats happening with him? he says that sometimes i will make the same comment and it frustrates him because i bring it up again in a different way or i contradict myself (eg: maybe on sunday we can go for a walk ..or whatever you would feel upto no pressure) Or that i repeat conversations we clarify in depth in a face to face conversation on a previous day... im just wanting reassurance thats all... he doesnt get angry at me just frustrated sometimes...and if that happens i normally just change the subject. It will also help me approach him when i see him on the weekend how i should be around him etc...
Note: this is the first time for me seeing him hit complete rock bottom (and just trying to learn)
Input would be greatly appreciated :) hugs if accepted
My partner has combat ptsd his currently not in a good head space.. not sure if his coming or going and is just wanting to take everything "easy" in life and with the relationship....we are still talking on the phone and seeing eachother on the weekend.....However im finding myself a little nervous like im worried i will say the wrong thing or he will get frustrated. Im usually a very big organiser and trying my best to just "chill" as a few ppl have said on the forums. Im wondering if anyone can help with providing me with strategies to approach my partner so he does not become frustrated,im just not liking to have to walk on egg shells when on the phone with him etc....things such as what not to talk about or to bring up in conversations, is it okay to talk about whats happening with him? he says that sometimes i will make the same comment and it frustrates him because i bring it up again in a different way or i contradict myself (eg: maybe on sunday we can go for a walk ..or whatever you would feel upto no pressure) Or that i repeat conversations we clarify in depth in a face to face conversation on a previous day... im just wanting reassurance thats all... he doesnt get angry at me just frustrated sometimes...and if that happens i normally just change the subject. It will also help me approach him when i see him on the weekend how i should be around him etc...
Note: this is the first time for me seeing him hit complete rock bottom (and just trying to learn)
Input would be greatly appreciated :) hugs if accepted