My brother and family physically,sexually,and verbally abused me until I was about 15 years old. I have gotten over it, or at least tried to. But whenever he comes around I feel this great wave of anxiety come over me and I almost have to shut down for the rest of the day. I am "that" person in my family who can;t handle anything and always brings the past and bad things up. I want to be close to my family. I don't have anyone else. I am alone, but I don't know how to be with them. Any suggestions?