I second everyone's comments, and particularly portabella's about everyone differing. For me, it took learning my reactions when NOT to go anywhere near the subject, or me at all at times. It takes listening to what someone is saying, and respecting it. If she says "No", respect that. It only leaves a person feeling unsafe if they think that they are going to be pushed too far, and then it can mean total avoidance of the issue altogether. I know I have personally dreaded 'that question'. The one where someone says "What happened to you, in detail?". Straight away I freak out. The approach needs to be gentle, not so gentle that it isn't even encouraging her to deal with it, or giving the opportunity to. But definitely don't push hard, so that she is pushed over the edge.
I am also another who is really bad at mornings. I don't want to be touched, sometimes I don't even want to be talked to. On bad mornings, anything can irritate me though this could just be my temperament! But mornings are one to watch, sometimes it's too much to start the day off with thinking about things.
Becvan's description of her 'third eye' issue is one I can relate to also. Sometimes I feel unreal, out of body, my senses muffle, and am unable to think. Push it, and for me, it gets worse and I start feeling physically ill.
It's difficult, and takes learning and you might not get it right every time. But knowing that someone is trying, and not giving up on me has always really helped.
I am also another who is really bad at mornings. I don't want to be touched, sometimes I don't even want to be talked to. On bad mornings, anything can irritate me though this could just be my temperament! But mornings are one to watch, sometimes it's too much to start the day off with thinking about things.
Becvan's description of her 'third eye' issue is one I can relate to also. Sometimes I feel unreal, out of body, my senses muffle, and am unable to think. Push it, and for me, it gets worse and I start feeling physically ill.
It's difficult, and takes learning and you might not get it right every time. But knowing that someone is trying, and not giving up on me has always really helped.