Hi all,
finally I find the strenght to write here, hoping someone can help me.
My partners state of health is getting very serious. A major depression episode since 10 months, cutting, daily suicidal thoughts, crying breakdowns every night and day and his fear of abandonment seems to get out of control. Our nights are short, because everytime I need to sleep he gets panic attacks. Its a common thing that he needs to drive to hospital in the middle of the night to get an injection because he cant manage depression and fear of abandonment. I loose my strenght every day more. I try to stand by him, but he absorbs all my energy and I dont know what to do anymore.
Doctors and therapists suggest him urgently to get a treatment in a clinic. But he refuses it. His argument is, to be locked in a clinic will trigger his fear of abandonment so bad, that he probably would kill himself there. On the other side, his situation gets worse daily. We tried a clinic treatment some months ago, and his abandonment phobia literally exploded. He cut, cried and wasnt even able to make therapy. At the same time a local therapy treatment at his therapist isnt enough and he drifts away every day more.
I am at my edge. I have no solution. And I am close to give up.
Please can someone help me? Is someone outthere who has an idea how to survive a fear of abandonment in a clinic?
Thanks a lot
finally I find the strenght to write here, hoping someone can help me.
My partners state of health is getting very serious. A major depression episode since 10 months, cutting, daily suicidal thoughts, crying breakdowns every night and day and his fear of abandonment seems to get out of control. Our nights are short, because everytime I need to sleep he gets panic attacks. Its a common thing that he needs to drive to hospital in the middle of the night to get an injection because he cant manage depression and fear of abandonment. I loose my strenght every day more. I try to stand by him, but he absorbs all my energy and I dont know what to do anymore.
Doctors and therapists suggest him urgently to get a treatment in a clinic. But he refuses it. His argument is, to be locked in a clinic will trigger his fear of abandonment so bad, that he probably would kill himself there. On the other side, his situation gets worse daily. We tried a clinic treatment some months ago, and his abandonment phobia literally exploded. He cut, cried and wasnt even able to make therapy. At the same time a local therapy treatment at his therapist isnt enough and he drifts away every day more.
I am at my edge. I have no solution. And I am close to give up.
Please can someone help me? Is someone outthere who has an idea how to survive a fear of abandonment in a clinic?
Thanks a lot