My Traumatic Stress - A New All Trauma Community If you're having a difficult time with a minor or major traumatic event, not PTSD specific, we now support all trauma types at My Traumatic Stress community. No diagnosis required. My husband just got back from Afghanistan in Dec. The first few months he was fine and now things have just gotten worse and worse. I guess the "honey moon phase" of his homecoming has worn off. My husband has such a short fuse now. My older son has ADHD and my husband can not stand him at all. It is hard dealing with some of his hyper activeness/tantrums but normally my husband is laid back and it doesnt bother him. It use to take a lot just to make him mad. Now he's angry all the time. He yells at my oldest son alot (he is not his biological father but has been there since my son was 1 and he is now almost 6.) He does not lash out on our youngest son (who is my husbands). I feel like he is always lashing out on me and my oldest son. We are always walking on egg shells around him. I hate living like this. My husband thinks that all of the problems are because of me and my older son, but its not. It's him. He has been to counseling twice. His base is very booked up with people suffering from PTSD/TBI, etc. The last appointment they went to he got on anti-depression medication and medication for his anxiety. He also got sleeping pills (which he does not need). My husband abuses the sleeping pills. He takes one and drinks a buncha beers and he has become worse since starting these pills. His mood swings are even worse now. Now he has started to treat me even worse. He treats me like complete garbage. He is always cold and distant with me. He doesnt listen to me when i try to talk to him, because he thinks its me. He will not admit something is wrong. If i try to bring it up he says things like "ok i go to Afghanistan and come home and im crazy." I do not say he is crazy to him. He doesnt talk about what he has seen and done over in Afghanistan (which i know is normal). But really he has built a wall a round him and i do not even think theres any fixing it. I am ready to file for divorce. I want to leave before it gets worse. I do not want my kids affected by this. Whats the best way to let him know i am done. I have tried and i have been through enough. I went through him treating me like garbage before he deployed because he was afraid and he took it all out on me. Then i was supportive the whole year long deployment and i was the only one there for him (his mom and siblings didnt even try to contact him while he was gone). We had a good relationship while he was deployed. I went through the stress of the deployment and raising two kids alone without him and worrying if he was gonna come home alive or not. Now im dealing with the mood swings and him treating me like garbage again like he did before he even deployed. he has changed so much since joining the army and even more so since coming home from Afghanistan. I am just ready to leave.