msktaylor0207
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accidently posted this in another thread.. OOPS
I knew within a few weeks after my husband came home from doing a year tour in iraq that he had PTSD... i suffer from it from a car accident, so i know a little of the signs. but it scared me BAD. here we are a little after 2 years since he got home, hes leaving again and im terrifed! his anger fits have only gotten worse, weve fought, and its even gotten physical. he was arrested a few weeks ago for attempting to kill our family dog because he lost control. he cant sleep, and when he does he has nightmares. i often am woken up by him sobbin on my shoulder. we left 11 days before our first child was born and came back when she was a year old. so as if being deployed wasnt hard enough he had that on his mind the whole time. we now have our 2nd child and even though he was here, he feels extreme guilt because he wasnt there for our daughter. so hes separated himself from our son. it kills me inside to see him like this and i know any other women would have left him a long time ago. but all this started to happen after he got home. a few months ago after he tore our house apart out of anger, he went and got help. he saw a pschyc who diagnosed him with PTSD and depression and gave him pills which didnt last long. i left the house for 15 mins and i come home to both my 3 yr old and at that time 2 month told screaming bloody murder, my daughter at the door of the bedroom, my dog pooped in her room, and my husband passed out from the meds. so now his unit has orders to deploy. i finally wrote my congressman/women about this situation and how i dont feel its safe for himself or even anyone if he deploys. and i keep thinking people arent going to take it seriously and think "oh, well this lady just wants to keep her husband home"... well you know what yes sure i do ,but if they lived with what i live with and see everyday they would see my husband needs help FAST! im affraid if he deploys, hell lose it and kill someone over there, whether its hodgie or another soldier. i feel hes fully capable of it, because myself and others have seen first hand what he does when hes mad. and it doent take a lot to get him to snap either. its such a scary situation.
sorry i wrote a novel, but i just need some advice on what to do, how can i be a support system for him? im going to be there for him 100% through it all, but im at a loss for what i can do other then "just be there". i keep trying to get him to go back to his Dr who is a vietnam vet, and just try to get him to go vent and let it out to someone who can relate. but hes always training and right now hes on the other side of the country at school. so hes never able to go to his apts.
when he gets back from school, hes going to get evaluated AGAIN, i guess to determine his deployability? the congresswomen is what started that, but what happens to people with this kind of PTSD? would they put him out? would they give him another MOS for a desk job or something? im so nervous about whats going to be going on. and most of all im nervous they arent going to take this seriously. theyre more worried about having boots on the ground then they are about their soldiers health. i can almost guarantee if he doesnt snap over there, hes going to come home and kill someone, whether its himself, my family or just someone. when it all could have been prevented.
hes always talking about going on rampages and killing everyone over there. and a lot of times he says its because they kept him from his family. hes got so much hatred, and takes it out on people he cares about. just could really use some advice!
thanks!
~shary
once again im sorry its so long!
I knew within a few weeks after my husband came home from doing a year tour in iraq that he had PTSD... i suffer from it from a car accident, so i know a little of the signs. but it scared me BAD. here we are a little after 2 years since he got home, hes leaving again and im terrifed! his anger fits have only gotten worse, weve fought, and its even gotten physical. he was arrested a few weeks ago for attempting to kill our family dog because he lost control. he cant sleep, and when he does he has nightmares. i often am woken up by him sobbin on my shoulder. we left 11 days before our first child was born and came back when she was a year old. so as if being deployed wasnt hard enough he had that on his mind the whole time. we now have our 2nd child and even though he was here, he feels extreme guilt because he wasnt there for our daughter. so hes separated himself from our son. it kills me inside to see him like this and i know any other women would have left him a long time ago. but all this started to happen after he got home. a few months ago after he tore our house apart out of anger, he went and got help. he saw a pschyc who diagnosed him with PTSD and depression and gave him pills which didnt last long. i left the house for 15 mins and i come home to both my 3 yr old and at that time 2 month told screaming bloody murder, my daughter at the door of the bedroom, my dog pooped in her room, and my husband passed out from the meds. so now his unit has orders to deploy. i finally wrote my congressman/women about this situation and how i dont feel its safe for himself or even anyone if he deploys. and i keep thinking people arent going to take it seriously and think "oh, well this lady just wants to keep her husband home"... well you know what yes sure i do ,but if they lived with what i live with and see everyday they would see my husband needs help FAST! im affraid if he deploys, hell lose it and kill someone over there, whether its hodgie or another soldier. i feel hes fully capable of it, because myself and others have seen first hand what he does when hes mad. and it doent take a lot to get him to snap either. its such a scary situation.
sorry i wrote a novel, but i just need some advice on what to do, how can i be a support system for him? im going to be there for him 100% through it all, but im at a loss for what i can do other then "just be there". i keep trying to get him to go back to his Dr who is a vietnam vet, and just try to get him to go vent and let it out to someone who can relate. but hes always training and right now hes on the other side of the country at school. so hes never able to go to his apts.
when he gets back from school, hes going to get evaluated AGAIN, i guess to determine his deployability? the congresswomen is what started that, but what happens to people with this kind of PTSD? would they put him out? would they give him another MOS for a desk job or something? im so nervous about whats going to be going on. and most of all im nervous they arent going to take this seriously. theyre more worried about having boots on the ground then they are about their soldiers health. i can almost guarantee if he doesnt snap over there, hes going to come home and kill someone, whether its himself, my family or just someone. when it all could have been prevented.
hes always talking about going on rampages and killing everyone over there. and a lot of times he says its because they kept him from his family. hes got so much hatred, and takes it out on people he cares about. just could really use some advice!
thanks!
~shary
once again im sorry its so long!