My CPTSD healing is more advanced than my husband's, he and I both know that. However, I am getting hints that his family abuse may have been worse than he has allowed himself to recall, because of the magnitude and pervasiveness of his trauma-management behaviors as an adult. The poor guy has CPTSD, social anxiety disorder, and uses passive-aggressive behavior to manage the scary world around him. And he's a genius -- off-the-charts IQ. He claims to trust me, but his actions say otherwise. He's definitely healed a lot, but sometimes getting better in one area means you find a PTSD rat's nest right next to it. (I just identified the passive/aggressive pattern, and I'm not looking forward to working through this with him.)
We can't move ahead without trust, but husband seems unable to acknowledge his defensiveness. If you repress memories more than you thought, how can you authentically heal? Advice welcomed. I'm stumped.
We can't move ahead without trust, but husband seems unable to acknowledge his defensiveness. If you repress memories more than you thought, how can you authentically heal? Advice welcomed. I'm stumped.