Notrueself
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Last night my husband said he would bbq, but when it came time he told me to do it. So I did. When it was ready, I dished up our son's plate and our son went out to eat right in front of my husband. I was fixing my plate thinking my husband would see our son's and come in. I came out with my plate and my husband asked me if it was ready. I said yes and pointed to son's plate. He said you never told me. I said I was sorry but I figured once you saw son's dinner you'd know. He gave me a very sarcastic thanks and went to get his dinner.
Here's the thing. The way this played out is the kind of stuff I had to deal with daily in my first marriage. And it always happens in front of the child and I never feel like I can defend myself beyond what I said. And it always catches me off guard and I get maxed out trigger wise. I feel triggered from the past and the present so it's hard to ground.
I don't know if I'm over reacting. Maybe I should have told him it was ready. It seemed like a no brainer. This just felt so manipulative, like I was being set up for a fall. Could this be my past coming back to haunt me? I feel like people won't believe me (my T, especially) because it feels like I'm overreacting. But these "little" things feel so familiar... and I don't know what to do, or where to turn. Sorry for the long post, just kinda needed to vent...
Here's the thing. The way this played out is the kind of stuff I had to deal with daily in my first marriage. And it always happens in front of the child and I never feel like I can defend myself beyond what I said. And it always catches me off guard and I get maxed out trigger wise. I feel triggered from the past and the present so it's hard to ground.
I don't know if I'm over reacting. Maybe I should have told him it was ready. It seemed like a no brainer. This just felt so manipulative, like I was being set up for a fall. Could this be my past coming back to haunt me? I feel like people won't believe me (my T, especially) because it feels like I'm overreacting. But these "little" things feel so familiar... and I don't know what to do, or where to turn. Sorry for the long post, just kinda needed to vent...