HI,
I am new to this site and not really sure what im doing yet in navigating it! My husband and I have been married for 17 years. A year ago he was officially diagnosed with PTSD by the VA.
He is a completely different person from the man I married. We had a very loving, close, intimate, tight knit relationship and with our 3 boys as well. He and I were best friends. We did everything together and planned things we were going to do together in the future. He was always so affectionate, attentive and loving. Everyday.
Our lives are completely turned upside down now and it feels like we are in the Twilight Zone. He no longer feels emotion or shows it. He pretty much feels like a zombie or is miserable. He doesn't want to do anything really. He goes through the motions with his job and what he has to do but that is it.
We have absolutely no relationship at all anymore. We don't talk much, we don't laugh, we don't spend time together. I don't know what to do. I try and try but sometimes I feel like a nervous breakdown is just around the corner. He has lost his quality of life and I have lost my husband and best friend but still live with him.
I am not willing to let him go but I don't know how to cope and is there ever a light at the end of the tunnel? My boys are teenagers and are aware of what their daddy is going through and why. I felt it important to tell them so they can do what they can to help and to pray for him.
Any advice or encouragement would be greatly appreciated. I do get out and do things for myself and my boys but it doesn't really make me feel any better.
I am new to this site and not really sure what im doing yet in navigating it! My husband and I have been married for 17 years. A year ago he was officially diagnosed with PTSD by the VA.
He is a completely different person from the man I married. We had a very loving, close, intimate, tight knit relationship and with our 3 boys as well. He and I were best friends. We did everything together and planned things we were going to do together in the future. He was always so affectionate, attentive and loving. Everyday.
Our lives are completely turned upside down now and it feels like we are in the Twilight Zone. He no longer feels emotion or shows it. He pretty much feels like a zombie or is miserable. He doesn't want to do anything really. He goes through the motions with his job and what he has to do but that is it.
We have absolutely no relationship at all anymore. We don't talk much, we don't laugh, we don't spend time together. I don't know what to do. I try and try but sometimes I feel like a nervous breakdown is just around the corner. He has lost his quality of life and I have lost my husband and best friend but still live with him.
I am not willing to let him go but I don't know how to cope and is there ever a light at the end of the tunnel? My boys are teenagers and are aware of what their daddy is going through and why. I felt it important to tell them so they can do what they can to help and to pray for him.
Any advice or encouragement would be greatly appreciated. I do get out and do things for myself and my boys but it doesn't really make me feel any better.
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