mikehoncho
New Here
I met my wife two years ago. We work at the same company. I told my stepmom that I plan on taking her out for a date. My step mom called me to days later and told me that she "heard" that her, my now wife, tried to kill her self at some point.
I knew that my step mom was telling gossip. I also know that my stepmom has a tendency to gossip. That goes even for me as her step child. Being depressed at certain times in my life I wanted to give my now wife the benefit of the doubt.
We went out and it was wonderful. She's very nice. So many qualities that I wanted in a woman.I fell in love plain simple.
She would at times be sad though. I would have to worry about her. She told me a lot of things about her past, issues with abuse both while growing up and with previous relationships.she's give me plenty of reasons that a person like her but at some point be depressed.
Now we are married, and my wife knows that my stepmom once said that she tried to kill her self. My wife as a result does not trust my stepmomand often has trouble trusting people my family. Sometimes if I defend them she doesn't trust me.
I wife has a lot of reasons not to trust people. Feel like sometimes of letter down, especially with regard to my stepmom saying those things about her.i'm feeling like my family, though I love them, are not providing my wife with a safe place.
I also feel that I have problems with boundaries with my family. I have trouble saying no, and I often listen to their criticism to intently. I need therapy. My wife is been getting therapy as well for posttraumatic stress disorder. But I need therapy as well it's plain and clear.
Sometimes I wonder if I'm good enough for her. Tonight I came home and I talked about how my stepmom might not be feeling well enough for Christmas tomorrow. My wife said "well I wish they would tell us now, instead of letting us know in the morning so that we can make other plans." She had a very good point, and I made a terrible mistake by telling my wife "well I think they won't know until the morning because they will not be able to know how good she feels."
My wife got very upset because she felt like I was taking there side. I feel horrible. My wife has so many reasons not to trust my stepmom, and perhaps my family back stanchion. She gets very defensive if they say something wrong. They say wrong things to me all the time yet I don't feel bad about it because I am probably so desensitized from it.
She just drove off to run an errand, and also to be alone. I'm so worried. I fear that I may not be Goodnuf for her because I've not been able to place my own boundaries. I feel so confused, and I wish to get my own therapy. I only wish that I could offer her words of comfort right now at this very moment. But all I can say, over and over again, is that I'm sorry. And I was wrong.
It does not seem to be working at the moment, she feels like I completely breached your trust. And perhaps a half. I want so much for everyone to get along, I'm not used to picking sides, I'm used to making peace.
I'm not sure what the right thing to do is here.
I knew that my step mom was telling gossip. I also know that my stepmom has a tendency to gossip. That goes even for me as her step child. Being depressed at certain times in my life I wanted to give my now wife the benefit of the doubt.
We went out and it was wonderful. She's very nice. So many qualities that I wanted in a woman.I fell in love plain simple.
She would at times be sad though. I would have to worry about her. She told me a lot of things about her past, issues with abuse both while growing up and with previous relationships.she's give me plenty of reasons that a person like her but at some point be depressed.
Now we are married, and my wife knows that my stepmom once said that she tried to kill her self. My wife as a result does not trust my stepmomand often has trouble trusting people my family. Sometimes if I defend them she doesn't trust me.
I wife has a lot of reasons not to trust people. Feel like sometimes of letter down, especially with regard to my stepmom saying those things about her.i'm feeling like my family, though I love them, are not providing my wife with a safe place.
I also feel that I have problems with boundaries with my family. I have trouble saying no, and I often listen to their criticism to intently. I need therapy. My wife is been getting therapy as well for posttraumatic stress disorder. But I need therapy as well it's plain and clear.
Sometimes I wonder if I'm good enough for her. Tonight I came home and I talked about how my stepmom might not be feeling well enough for Christmas tomorrow. My wife said "well I wish they would tell us now, instead of letting us know in the morning so that we can make other plans." She had a very good point, and I made a terrible mistake by telling my wife "well I think they won't know until the morning because they will not be able to know how good she feels."
My wife got very upset because she felt like I was taking there side. I feel horrible. My wife has so many reasons not to trust my stepmom, and perhaps my family back stanchion. She gets very defensive if they say something wrong. They say wrong things to me all the time yet I don't feel bad about it because I am probably so desensitized from it.
She just drove off to run an errand, and also to be alone. I'm so worried. I fear that I may not be Goodnuf for her because I've not been able to place my own boundaries. I feel so confused, and I wish to get my own therapy. I only wish that I could offer her words of comfort right now at this very moment. But all I can say, over and over again, is that I'm sorry. And I was wrong.
It does not seem to be working at the moment, she feels like I completely breached your trust. And perhaps a half. I want so much for everyone to get along, I'm not used to picking sides, I'm used to making peace.
I'm not sure what the right thing to do is here.