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@twodogcircus, love your name and the pic!
Thanks for writing, I haven't been on for awhile and just saw this:), been camping to deal with PTSD. Helps me to continue processing and working on my cope ahead plan. I can so relate to what u said about when your dog died, beyond sucks when they have been with us day in day out, our lifeline.
Thank you for the rainbow bridge referral I will look them up for sure, so nice your mom doing that:). That's so funny with your doggy from the shelter with the attachment issues, I feel that way sometimes over protective, scared and ready to fight, bless u for keeping them!
This cope ahead idea was one of my better ideas, it has really moved me along, I shudder to think what could have happened if she had died suddenly. Anyway it will help me to write the process I have gone through and what I need to keep working on. When she quit eating, I freaked it had never occurred to me I was probably going to have a life without her. I would totally melt down, I was starting to think I might have to be in a structured environment after to function. I did go "home" where my family is to see if that would be an option it is not. Current plan is to check into a motel for a couple of weeks.
What it came it down to for me was really assessing, digging deeper into my spiritual beliefs, trying to make a plan for her body forced this issue, no way around it. It was not easy but very valuable, the biggest lesson I got out of that was the reminder that nothing is permanent in this life and with my issues that is a hard pill to swallow but it is reality and the closer I live to reality the easier things are going to be.
when I am not too overwhelmed I think on this subject, I could do a little better accepting the sadness that comes with it, not blocking it or being overwhelmed by it, then when Thea goes I will be more practiced in this. That is my goal is to simulate the situation now, while stable, try out strategies and resources that I can use when she goes. I am taking more videos along with pictures, I spend more time enjoying her, been combining mindfulness walking mediation and walking her. I still need to find a site where I can talk about it at length with others going through the same, this always helps me the most, knowing others are going through it. I will go look at rainbow bridge after this.
I need to continue visualizing what I will do the day she goes until I have it automatic, no time to be making decisions I could regret. Heard the song "spirt in the sky" today and think I will put that on my phone.
Thanks again for writing really appreciate it, I hope your fear with your two gets easier too, if u come up with things that work, please let me know! Through researching this I can see we have added challenges, it is soooo hard for everyone to lose an animal but for many of us they are our primary support with a really difficult disorder often involving trust and when they go we will be challenged to find ways to cope. Wishing you the best!
Thanks for writing, I haven't been on for awhile and just saw this:), been camping to deal with PTSD. Helps me to continue processing and working on my cope ahead plan. I can so relate to what u said about when your dog died, beyond sucks when they have been with us day in day out, our lifeline.
Thank you for the rainbow bridge referral I will look them up for sure, so nice your mom doing that:). That's so funny with your doggy from the shelter with the attachment issues, I feel that way sometimes over protective, scared and ready to fight, bless u for keeping them!
This cope ahead idea was one of my better ideas, it has really moved me along, I shudder to think what could have happened if she had died suddenly. Anyway it will help me to write the process I have gone through and what I need to keep working on. When she quit eating, I freaked it had never occurred to me I was probably going to have a life without her. I would totally melt down, I was starting to think I might have to be in a structured environment after to function. I did go "home" where my family is to see if that would be an option it is not. Current plan is to check into a motel for a couple of weeks.
What it came it down to for me was really assessing, digging deeper into my spiritual beliefs, trying to make a plan for her body forced this issue, no way around it. It was not easy but very valuable, the biggest lesson I got out of that was the reminder that nothing is permanent in this life and with my issues that is a hard pill to swallow but it is reality and the closer I live to reality the easier things are going to be.
when I am not too overwhelmed I think on this subject, I could do a little better accepting the sadness that comes with it, not blocking it or being overwhelmed by it, then when Thea goes I will be more practiced in this. That is my goal is to simulate the situation now, while stable, try out strategies and resources that I can use when she goes. I am taking more videos along with pictures, I spend more time enjoying her, been combining mindfulness walking mediation and walking her. I still need to find a site where I can talk about it at length with others going through the same, this always helps me the most, knowing others are going through it. I will go look at rainbow bridge after this.
I need to continue visualizing what I will do the day she goes until I have it automatic, no time to be making decisions I could regret. Heard the song "spirt in the sky" today and think I will put that on my phone.
Thanks again for writing really appreciate it, I hope your fear with your two gets easier too, if u come up with things that work, please let me know! Through researching this I can see we have added challenges, it is soooo hard for everyone to lose an animal but for many of us they are our primary support with a really difficult disorder often involving trust and when they go we will be challenged to find ways to cope. Wishing you the best!