Freida
MyPTSD Pro
T and I've been working with the Internal Family System for quite a while now and I have it fairly under control. I've made peace with my manager, critic and my protectors - and they are more or less cooperative. My firefighters -- well I can sort of get them to step back or at least pause before they explode so that's a win
My challenge is the exile. She needs to die. I have wanted to kill her since the day I figured out who/what she was. The sooner I can kill her, the sooner I can move on. I know my life will be way better once she dies. It's like cutting out a cancer - kill her and the damage goes with her.
The Ts, however, say I can't kill her. They insist that at some point I have to accept her for who she is, what she did, how she survived and somehow come to something other than raging hate and disgust for her. They also blather on about accepting her and her experiences as part of me. yeaaaaaa. no.
So my question --- have any of you done this phase in IFS? How did you get rid of your exile? She is responsible for f*cking up a large part of my life so I have zero desire to "rescue" her, at least not at this point. Has anyone successfully killed theirs? Or dealt with them any other way?
My challenge is the exile. She needs to die. I have wanted to kill her since the day I figured out who/what she was. The sooner I can kill her, the sooner I can move on. I know my life will be way better once she dies. It's like cutting out a cancer - kill her and the damage goes with her.
The Ts, however, say I can't kill her. They insist that at some point I have to accept her for who she is, what she did, how she survived and somehow come to something other than raging hate and disgust for her. They also blather on about accepting her and her experiences as part of me. yeaaaaaa. no.
So my question --- have any of you done this phase in IFS? How did you get rid of your exile? She is responsible for f*cking up a large part of my life so I have zero desire to "rescue" her, at least not at this point. Has anyone successfully killed theirs? Or dealt with them any other way?