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So, a problem with the "safe, sane, consensual" theory of fantasy is that often PTSD sufferers fantasize about what's happened to them. Rape victims have rape fantasies. People who've gone through other sexual issues, say, BDSM gone wrong, may fantasize about BDSM. And so on. I would say that this is normal, and this is OK.
However, there are two schools of thought about this and one school of thought says that you can't be "over" your PTSD if you still have these kinds of fantasies. The other school is more integrative, which is the one I personally prefer as I find the other school to be unforgivingly sex-negative.
If you're fantasizing about actually hurting a real person in any way, sexually or not, this is definitely an issue to bring it in therapy. Otherwise, fantasy is a normal part of life and doesn't have to be safe, sane, or consensual at all. Non-SSC fantasy can indeed be normal and healthy.
However, there are two schools of thought about this and one school of thought says that you can't be "over" your PTSD if you still have these kinds of fantasies. The other school is more integrative, which is the one I personally prefer as I find the other school to be unforgivingly sex-negative.
If you're fantasizing about actually hurting a real person in any way, sexually or not, this is definitely an issue to bring it in therapy. Otherwise, fantasy is a normal part of life and doesn't have to be safe, sane, or consensual at all. Non-SSC fantasy can indeed be normal and healthy.