@Whirlwind you have our support! Please don't be critical of yourself for trying to be friendly to this woman. How could you possibly have known how she views friendship? You don't have a crystal ball & she has not been honest to herself, her hubby or you. Who knows how many ppl she's chewed up & spat out before she ambushed you. I agree with you, she is lonely & probably has other issues too. You are making healthy, positive decisions & sound like a really generous spirit. Considering you want a fresh start from your own history & seem to be forming bonds in the town with other ppl. I'd say you are doing really well. I've met heap's of deceptive ppl through my work (in a former life). They can usually put up a very convincing facade.. but cannot keep it up for too long. Well done you for wanting a fresh & healthy start. You won't be without friends & happy acquaintances for long if you are teaching ppl how to cook & feeding ppl!