Meadowsweet
MyPTSD Pro
Lately I keep coming across people who have got angry at others, and remain completely unapologetic afterwards because they seem to feel that their anger is ok and it's justifiable for them to express it at others.
I know that it's unhealthy to suppress anger and it is healthy to accept that we are angry and to find a way to release it. So I know that feeling anger can be perfectly justified. But when people use their anger to have a go at others that seems so wrong to me (other than extreme circumstances, like being in physical danger)
People sometimes blow in the moment and don't manage to control their anger. It happens, and I can empathise with that. But when that happens and the anger has subsided, I would look at that as something I didn't want to keep repeating - and look at ways to manage the anger better and maybe apologise if it's appropriate.
What I can't understand is the attitude that it is acceptable to angrily rant at a specific person or group of people. Or that it is ok to do that and that it is justified for them to do that. The justification seems to be that they are annoyed or hurt by the way someone else has treated them, and that makes it ok for them to hurt others.
If everybody felt that way, it would be back and forth and never-ending. The person getting angry obviously doesn't feel that it's ok for others to hurt them (otherwise they wouldn't feel anger) so what makes it ok for them to hurt others?
Unless you or someone you're protecting is in physical danger, is it ever ok to express anger directly towards others?
I know that it's unhealthy to suppress anger and it is healthy to accept that we are angry and to find a way to release it. So I know that feeling anger can be perfectly justified. But when people use their anger to have a go at others that seems so wrong to me (other than extreme circumstances, like being in physical danger)
People sometimes blow in the moment and don't manage to control their anger. It happens, and I can empathise with that. But when that happens and the anger has subsided, I would look at that as something I didn't want to keep repeating - and look at ways to manage the anger better and maybe apologise if it's appropriate.
What I can't understand is the attitude that it is acceptable to angrily rant at a specific person or group of people. Or that it is ok to do that and that it is justified for them to do that. The justification seems to be that they are annoyed or hurt by the way someone else has treated them, and that makes it ok for them to hurt others.
If everybody felt that way, it would be back and forth and never-ending. The person getting angry obviously doesn't feel that it's ok for others to hurt them (otherwise they wouldn't feel anger) so what makes it ok for them to hurt others?
Unless you or someone you're protecting is in physical danger, is it ever ok to express anger directly towards others?