I am new to this site. My boyfriend broke up with me (second time in our almost 2 year relationship) I always knew he has "emotional issues" but he was recently diagnosed with PTSD last month and has not seen a professional for help yet. He served in the army for 4 years, and upon coming home his father died and we started dating a few weeks after. Our relationship is pure, deep, and fun. I have never connected with anyone else so perfectly before. We have the normal relationship "you're a pain in my ass" moments but we never raise our voices, put each other down, or call each other names. Our first breakup lasted 3 weeks and with no contact. He told me he didn't think he would ever love me. When he decided to get back together he told me he was scared to "spiral backwards" because it hurts him, and he was in a deep depression being apart. 6 months later he told me he loved me and never stopped saying it. We had another week separation but didn't break up, when things got really stressful at work, and with some time and space he told me he loved me so much and he was sorry but he had a lot on his plate. We talk about our future together, being married, traveling, how we want to retire. When things are good, he plays with my hair when we talk to each other, doesn't stop touching my butt, and he is so adamant on Sunday is "family day" with our "daughter" (dog). The second break up was so out of the blue, the week before he told me he loved me so much, and then the next we were strangers. I cannot initiate no contact with him bc we are in a college class together. I had noticed he was a bit different since the semester started but I didn't think much of it until now. Stress is definitely a trigger for him. He tells me (during both breakups) that he never got a chance to sort out his life when he got home from the military or mourn his fathers death. He still texts me (I never initiate contact first) and it's only about school. He told me monday he wouldn't be in class bc his army buddy died and he didn't feel emotionally stable to be in class. I thought to myself (why is he telling me this) but I think if it was completely over he wouldn't be reaching out to me. My best friend told me that I should remain "friends" with him, stay in contact, don't dig into getting back together. Just be supportive and help him if he reaches out. When we had class the other night I never wanted to leave. I loved interacting with him with our lab experiment, it was as if nothing was wrong and I can still feel our fire burn. When we walked out I waited at the elevator and he told me to come with him to take the stairs. I asked him if it was really over for us and instead of saying yes he said "for now" and he kissed me on the forehead. This is hard for me but I know my number one wish is for him to have the courage to seek help and get better. Is it true that people who suffer from PTSD say things that they don't mean to push us away? Bc he did say (when we were breaking up) that he wasn't happy, that I deserved better, that he didn't long for me like he should. To me that's complete bullshit bc his actions say differently. Do you think he is just numb and confused? Do you think he will come around and respect me more for sticking by his side (staying mutual rather than being cold)? I love him more than anything, and I never pictured a life without him. I am taking everything day by day but would appreciate any advice.