Adrienne12
Confident
PTSD has different symptoms for everyone. I realize some of us are filled with shame, embarassment, anxiety and depression. Others feel anger and isolation. We all have one thing in common and that is the need to get better.
What I noticed is how kind we our to everyone else but not ourselves. I realized that I am telling people "It will be OK."' But I am not telling myself these things.
So, I thought about all of it. I decided to think of my best friend. If she came to me and told me she experienced the trauma that I did...How would I react to her? Would I blame her like I blame myself? Would I have told her she should not have been there? Would I have looked at her like she was disgusting or damaged?
Of course my answers were all no. I would comfort her. I would tell her she wasn't responsible for what those men did. Her responsibility ended when they chose to hurt her. Maybe we all need to be as kind to ourselves as we are to everyone on here. We are telling each other not to feel guilt and shame yet we are filled with it. I decided today that I am going to treat myself like my best friend and see what happens...
What I noticed is how kind we our to everyone else but not ourselves. I realized that I am telling people "It will be OK."' But I am not telling myself these things.
So, I thought about all of it. I decided to think of my best friend. If she came to me and told me she experienced the trauma that I did...How would I react to her? Would I blame her like I blame myself? Would I have told her she should not have been there? Would I have looked at her like she was disgusting or damaged?
Of course my answers were all no. I would comfort her. I would tell her she wasn't responsible for what those men did. Her responsibility ended when they chose to hurt her. Maybe we all need to be as kind to ourselves as we are to everyone on here. We are telling each other not to feel guilt and shame yet we are filled with it. I decided today that I am going to treat myself like my best friend and see what happens...