Hello new forum friends! This is a plea to those of you in long-term relationships (particularly if you or your other half's PTSD is combat-related, because that is what my sufferer has, so you may be able to relate better). I need support/advice/guidance/opinions/a glimmer of hope/reassurance/whatever reaction you have to this.....! Who else isn't getting any sex or intimacy of any kind? Quick show of hands?? (or the cyberspace equivalent anyway!) I'm a pretty patient, reasonable, empathetic person, so I completely understand that because he's feeling angry and depressed and confused, he's withdrawn and pulled away from me. Why on earth should he feel like sex when his head's in such a mess? But equally, there are posts on here where people say, despite the emotional distance, cold silences or absences, sex is actually the one thing they do still have that keeps them going and provides some relief amid the doom and gloom. So, should I be doing more to try to coax him out of his dark cave and rekindle some passion in our lives?? It's 'only' been just over a month (I've gone far longer without when I was single), but when you're in a close, loving relationship that feels like an eternity. And it's such a contrast to what we enjoyed before. It's not just the sex I miss, there's no affection or intimacy at all. Full stop. Nada. If I hug him, he'll just passively stand there and be held until I let go - there's no returning warmth in his arms. If I kiss him, he'll either purse his lips tight together so I just get a peck, or sometimes he'll even turn his head so I just get his cheek. If I try snuggling on the sofa, massaging his shoulders, feet, stroking his arm, playing with his hands, touching his arm as we talk, whatever contact i make... there's nothing in response. So I've taken all these signals to mean he's clearly not interested in being physically close to me right now, and I haven't attempted to instigate sex. But should I be doing more? It doesn't help that we're in separate bedrooms (to help him sleep better) Not that sex is limited to the bedroom, but we're missing out on that opportunity to lie together and be close in a non-sexual way; to cuddle, chat about stuff, just feel intimate and connected, whether or not it leads to anything. All that is missing. I feel so distant from him.