OrangeJulius
MyPTSD Pro
I've looked around a bit and didn't see anything about this. My combat PTSD boyfriend is going to be meeting my family and friends soon. Just looking for tips about how to make him most comfortable. I will be talking to him about this too, just looking for any input you all have. Venues? Activities? Tips? Tricks?
If I ask him what he wants to do, I know he'll say "whatever" and then try to suck up the anxiety. If I give him options, then he usually picks the best one for him. So, I'm looking for ideas and I'll let him weigh the costs and benefits. Dinner at my parents house to meet the family is private without strangers around, but then the social aspect of continuing conversation is increased. Activities outside the house introduce strange environments and people, but the social engagement is decreased. Ya know?
I'm also worried that we'll set something up and he'll be having a bad day and have to cancel. For me, not a big deal. But, I don't want my friends to pre judge him for that.
Anyways, I'm probably overthinking this, but oh well. I just want everyone to like him and him to be ok!
Sufferers, what would be an ideal situation for you? Supporters, what has/has not worked for you?
Thanks!
If I ask him what he wants to do, I know he'll say "whatever" and then try to suck up the anxiety. If I give him options, then he usually picks the best one for him. So, I'm looking for ideas and I'll let him weigh the costs and benefits. Dinner at my parents house to meet the family is private without strangers around, but then the social aspect of continuing conversation is increased. Activities outside the house introduce strange environments and people, but the social engagement is decreased. Ya know?
I'm also worried that we'll set something up and he'll be having a bad day and have to cancel. For me, not a big deal. But, I don't want my friends to pre judge him for that.
Anyways, I'm probably overthinking this, but oh well. I just want everyone to like him and him to be ok!
Sufferers, what would be an ideal situation for you? Supporters, what has/has not worked for you?
Thanks!