Hi, I'm new and just wanted to share what I'm going through this week and hopefully get support from others..
As the title says, my mom's ex who is scheduled to be released in a few weeks, found me online and emailed me that he wanted to see me. I am a 30 yr old woman.
The guy has been in prison for 15 years. This is the 1st he's tried contacting me.
I emailed my mom about this and she immediate emailed federal bureau of prisons.
I also contacted local police b/c her ex was sentenced in court where I live.
A little history...
My mom married him when I was just 15yrs. old. The guy was scary to live with. He always had a look on his face that he was plotting something and ready to kill someone. He ignored me or yelled at me. That was the 'relationship' we had. A few months after mom married, we all moved to a rural state where her sister lived with a husband who molested my mom's sister's daughters from a previous marriage.
A few months after we moved to the state, one of my cousins gained custody of me. Then a few months later she didn't want me & I bounced from relative to relative. My mom's husband was put in local jail. Don't know why. He was later charged as a felon.
When he was arrested, the relative I was staying with told me to move out and live with my mom. I did b/c I had no where else to go. I was 16 years old. My mom was still visiting her husband in jail. A few weeks after I moved in, she announced that her husband wanted me to visit him at the jail. Reluctantly I went. I felt alone. All had abandoned me. My relatives no longer wanted me. I talked on the phone with the glass b/t myself and him. He began making sexual remarks to me. After he finished and my mom and I left she told me that I needed to be with him sexually! Now, I was confused and felt hopeless. My mom continued to take me to visit him a few times a week while I was in high school. During these times that I visited, everything felt dreamlike and unreal.
After he was transferred out of state, my mom got both herself and I set up with therapists and took out alot of anger onto me. She also divorced him after he was transferred. My relationship with my mom went downhill from there. I still only have contact with mom via email on rare occasions like now due to the situation with her ex.
Has anyone else been in similar situation?
Psyweb published my life story, 'Into The Light: Catherine's Journey Out Of PTSD'
There are 4 parts. Part 1 is published.
I'm unable to post a link to the article.
As the title says, my mom's ex who is scheduled to be released in a few weeks, found me online and emailed me that he wanted to see me. I am a 30 yr old woman.
The guy has been in prison for 15 years. This is the 1st he's tried contacting me.
I emailed my mom about this and she immediate emailed federal bureau of prisons.
I also contacted local police b/c her ex was sentenced in court where I live.
A little history...
My mom married him when I was just 15yrs. old. The guy was scary to live with. He always had a look on his face that he was plotting something and ready to kill someone. He ignored me or yelled at me. That was the 'relationship' we had. A few months after mom married, we all moved to a rural state where her sister lived with a husband who molested my mom's sister's daughters from a previous marriage.
A few months after we moved to the state, one of my cousins gained custody of me. Then a few months later she didn't want me & I bounced from relative to relative. My mom's husband was put in local jail. Don't know why. He was later charged as a felon.
When he was arrested, the relative I was staying with told me to move out and live with my mom. I did b/c I had no where else to go. I was 16 years old. My mom was still visiting her husband in jail. A few weeks after I moved in, she announced that her husband wanted me to visit him at the jail. Reluctantly I went. I felt alone. All had abandoned me. My relatives no longer wanted me. I talked on the phone with the glass b/t myself and him. He began making sexual remarks to me. After he finished and my mom and I left she told me that I needed to be with him sexually! Now, I was confused and felt hopeless. My mom continued to take me to visit him a few times a week while I was in high school. During these times that I visited, everything felt dreamlike and unreal.
After he was transferred out of state, my mom got both herself and I set up with therapists and took out alot of anger onto me. She also divorced him after he was transferred. My relationship with my mom went downhill from there. I still only have contact with mom via email on rare occasions like now due to the situation with her ex.
Has anyone else been in similar situation?
Psyweb published my life story, 'Into The Light: Catherine's Journey Out Of PTSD'
There are 4 parts. Part 1 is published.
I'm unable to post a link to the article.