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Motorcycle Accidents

Discussion in 'Vehicle Accidents' started by Rosewater, Oct 23, 2015.

  1. Rosewater

    Rosewater Well-Known Member

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    Hi Aidan

    This is also what happened to me after my accident.

    As the others have said, do try and get some professional therapy. They can give you a diagnosis, if that's what you want, and help you with your difficulties. There's no need to suffer & there are lots of treatments that can help.

    Good luck & stay safe
     
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  3. Esterio

    Esterio Well-Known Member Premium Member

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    I'm glad you found this site also it will help some. Just being able to talk and have people know what you are talking about is big. They had a hell of a time trying to keep me alive. I was I'm a coma for some time several weeks. then I went through more surgeries and die a few more times. I have some real issues around those surgeries. and several others had some poor recoveries. But hey I'm alive which beat the odds.
    Therapy does help it is just finding the right fit for you.
    peace be safe sleep well if you can.:hug:
     
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  4. Jules

    Jules New Member

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    Hi Esterio, Jules here.
    How are your days going?
    Kindest
    Jules
     
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  5. Aidan

    Aidan New Member

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    Hey you guys..
    Thank you for being so supportive and kind. I've registered as a member. And I've seen a therapist..yeah, from what he said, I do have PTSD. The fees for his consultations though, it's way expensive for me to handle. I might change a therapist to a local hospital..he suggested for me to start taking sleeping pills. But I'm not fond of that idea and I haven't taken any yet. He was cool with it but asked me to come to his clinic and talk to him..

    It's going to take time for this to go away, he said. He also said that, my mind and body still remembers everything about the pain but my heart has moved on. That's why I'm having nightmares and flashbacks..we haven't covered the part about what triggered it. I told him I don't know what's triggering it, I've been doing my best to find it but failed. I had one session with him, it was my first and we're going to meet again on my next appointment.

    I was unable to talk about it with him too..was it like this too with you guys? Were you able to talk about it with anyone? Is it bad if I can't share it with anyone? I'm sorry if my questions are out of the line.

    Hope everything is great for you,
    Aidan
     
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  6. Jules

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    Hi Aidan, just Jules here mate.
    I started with private therapy a few years back, rubbish - i found. One gave me a leaflet on PTSD and that was about it - said if i couldnt talk he couldnt help me.
    I am with a neuro hospital trauma therapist now, its more clinical, but he is getting somewhere with me. Leaps and bounds, but, i myself, like you - cant talk about 'the incident' itself. Although i think he may want me to try soon, as i have been seeing him 2 years this Christmass.

    I am a member of the Headway forum too as i banged my head in my motorcycle accident and have mild problems.
    I am finding the best support is actually these forms and lovely people on them - obviously with the professionals there on hand to answer any medical questions.

    There was a long waiting list before i was given my therapist - over a year i think. During that wait and even now with therapy, these forums are a life saver for me.
    As the years go by since the crash i am beginning to think PTSD never goes away completely, i think, with me at least, the therapist is teaching me to manage it.
    I think i am doing well, then something happens in my head/with my thinking and i still feel sick to the belly an i am still embarrassed to talk to other people (apart from here) about what happens to me.

    Kindest regards

    Jules
    x
     
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  7. Aidan

    Aidan New Member

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    Hi Jules, thank you for your reply. I'm not sure if this therapist is okay for me, I'm gonna give him a chance, I think. However, I do realize that I don't feel comfortable enough with him. Maybe it's because I came to see him with my family and he started the questions in front of them and that got me feel bad.

    Today is the day I had my second surgery. I just woke up from a nightmare. I didn't even remember what today's date is all about until I take a look at my phone, and I still have nightmares. I can't go back to sleep when I have nightmares. It's frustrating...but I'm getting used to it already.

    I've been reading a lot from this site...I'm still processing about everything but this forum helps. A lot. I didn't tell anyone yet that I've found a place where I could feel comfortable and able to talk about this. I'm glad to be here..thank you everyone. ;)

    Hope everything is great for you,
    Aidan :)
     
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  8. Jules

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    Hi Aidan - JUles here.
    As you can tell by the time, i am often not sleeping for similar reasons.
    Just wanted to say that my first 'proper' therapy session i went with my husband and the second with my mum for support. At both sessions i started to get really edgy and probably 'angry'. I really couldnt tell you why, it shocked me a little, wasnt expecting to act like that.
    Then the next session i went into the room myself and i found i got along with the therapist loads better instantly.
    Maybe the same will happen with you.
    I have been give a break from therapy for a few weeks whilst i try and deal with a serious family illness (mum has cancer). But my next appointment is not long away now - then its back to weekly, until i am cured .... i jest, i dont think any of us are ever completely the same people again are we. Some not at all, the lucky ones maybe are, hopefully they exist. What do you think?
    Jules
     
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  9. Aidan

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    Hey Jules, sorry for taking so long to reply..and I'm sorry about your mum. You must be going through a lot. I pray everything will be better for you...

    I do agree with you about not being the same person as I used to be. I don't think I'm able to go back being that person anymore. It may sound presumptuous, but it's the truth. I don't even remember what I was like before the accident. It was like a different person from a different life or something.

    I've stopped from seeing the therapist and now I'm waiting for my turn to see one from a local hospital. I tried, with that therapist but I'm not comfortable with him and he couldn't help me if I'm unable to talk about it. At the beginning of our first few sessions he was okay with it but then he kind of in a rush and started pushing me to it, that made me feel really really bad...

    I've been spending my time with work and then my mum came to spend time with me. She slept with me in my room on her second night and I had a nightmare. It was hard, because she saw that and she's been seeing more of it on the next nights she spent with me. The look on her face..it was hard. But I was grateful she didn't ask anything about it or tried to talk about it. Still, I can tell how she feels from the look on her face..

    When I told her I've stopped seeing the therapist and waiting for a new one, she asked me to stop if it's not helping me. She asked me to start going out with someone and think about getting married because that would definitely make me better. :meh:
    I didn't argue or anything, just changed the topic but she's been persistent about it since, ughh god! I don't know what anymore when she's like that. And when she saw me still having nightmares...that didn't help at all. :(
    I know and understand she loves me and worried about me but it's hard to make her understand things that she couldn't understand :unsure:
     
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  10. Sofus Kjeka

    Sofus Kjeka Guest

    Hi,
    Id like to share my accident story here, because this might be my first chance to be understood about it.

    I had been riding a 550cc for 2 years. I did a really long course and paid a lot for the lisencwe when I was 28. One evening I was riding home from work, it was raining but it rains a lot in my hometown, so im customed to taking it slower on circumstance.
    I went on the highway, and immedietly after a tunnel there was a sign that said: Roadwork, 60 km speed limit.

    The thing was that there was only one other car at this section when I approached, a few 100 meters behind. The car was driving a lot faster than 60 km, so i felt in controll of the situation.
    Then suddenly, the car in front performes a critical brake, im pretty sure it was because they noticed the sign way to late.

    Now the car is very close to me, so I start hitting the brakes but I was to hard. My front wheel sled bcause of the haevy rain. Right before, I though that now im either gonna hit this car or take the fall. So fall it was. and I sled down the highway with the bike over me for 150 m. I think my speed was around 60 km pr hour. I used my elbow in a panick, and permanently damaged it, without doubth. Then i freed myself from the bike, rolled over and watched the bike slide another 50 m. Some rode-workers actually saw me there.

    I first got up and checked that my head was whole and that my arm werent broken. Silly, I know know because adrenaline will cheat you in accidents.

    I was so shocked that I just laid out flat on the highway for about 5 min. Then I got up picked up my bike and secured it beside the road. Just at this moment the police arrived. They heard of a situation and would check it out. I was really confussede at the moment but used effort in explaining everything was ok, and that I was just gonna drive home. No need for medical exams, im fine! Look the bike is also fine...well it was not fine.

    But they let me go home. So I went to a cabin and fell a sleep. since i dindt get a medical exam, i might say that I luckily woke up the next day. I had been sleeping 15 hours.

    Thats the story, but the real story is how to cope.
    And truth is, I dont cope. There was from the start a feeling that something had changed radicaly inside. Life was not the same. And know I hoped the world would understand. But my world didnt. Instead i alianated myself from everybody my age. Two reasons, the first is that I always hated the idea of being a burden, so therefore i have only shared a little of the experience with like 2-3 people. the second reason, I have strong need for understanding about this, but people dont and therefore I have a hopeless feeling of not being understood. And this is because of a very real situation not some general consern one could have, at all.

    So I hate to have this expectation of others, and it keeps dissapointing me, and strengthens my isolation.

    I think it is like this with rough experiences. Other people really cant relate. And then I start hating people for having a lot of insignificant problems. Of course I know that my problems are not the worst, and that there is a lot of people who really suffer , and deserve a lot better.
     
  11. Esterio

    Esterio Well-Known Member Premium Member

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    Hi there Sofus Welcome thank you for the post
    First have you thought about going and seeing a trauma therapist. Could help you a lot. Motor cycle crashes can be devastating and live changing. You see your life pass very quickly before your eyes. I have had 3 crashes 2 minor injuries ! was as close to fatal as you can get. Sound like most of your injuries are mental health issues so I would go to see a trauma specialist and deal with it before it gets worse as that is what happens the long things are not dealt with. I wish you luck and speedy recovery.
    Peace be safe
     
  12. Sofus Kjeka

    Sofus Kjeka Guest

    Thank you, for responding.

    Its great to reach people in similar situations.

    I have concidered trauma therapy, but I didnt follow up on it.
    Now its over two years already. I got worse the first year, but after the second year passed, it felt a little more normal. Guess therapy is late now...But I will reconsider it.

    The physical side: Iv been involved with sports for a long time. So not sure what my pains derive from anymore. Its a soup of different ailments. But least im standing.

    I still think I did a good thing by getting a new bike. I pressed on, and actually started enjoing it again.

    Hope you are well mr.!
     
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