My boyfriend left our home after 2 years living together he said he needs space to find himself, that he loves me but he can't do it. He was encarcerated for 26 years and has PTSD I knew that when I got into the relationship. He made a mistake and it cost him most of his life in there. We've had our ups and downs but been able to go through it together.
I lost my job 2 months ago and the financial struggle sent him into a spiral effect. He would shut down and always felt tired. I didn't know how to handle it and when we argued it got to the point that I lost control and I would put my hands on him, never left marks or anything but just grabbed him hard. I stopped that when he showed me a video of how angry I got. We worked on that and I changed.
He decided to leave because the stress of our relationship is too much and the finances are too much for him.
He didn't respond the first two days and he finally answered me the second day and I cried and did everything wrong. I begged him to come back and he said: That is not my home! I told him, I wasn't working and that I needed help. He said I will give you money for rent nothing will change, I just don't want to go back. I love you but I can't. He didn't take any clothes.
I lost it and ended up in a hospital with a mental break down. He knew about it but never came to see me or text me at all.
I texted him last night telling him, that reaching that breaking point was it for me. I said I never understood that you needed space, I accepted now but I want you to be ok. I am letting you go because I love you. Reach out whenever you are able to.
He asked me to leave him some clothes and stuff in the laundry room downstairs, we live in an apartment and that he would pick it up. He doesn't want to see me.
I love him and I know I did everything wrong. I don't think he will come back but I hope he does. If he does, I would want therapy for both of us to have a healthy relationship.
I lost my job 2 months ago and the financial struggle sent him into a spiral effect. He would shut down and always felt tired. I didn't know how to handle it and when we argued it got to the point that I lost control and I would put my hands on him, never left marks or anything but just grabbed him hard. I stopped that when he showed me a video of how angry I got. We worked on that and I changed.
He decided to leave because the stress of our relationship is too much and the finances are too much for him.
He didn't respond the first two days and he finally answered me the second day and I cried and did everything wrong. I begged him to come back and he said: That is not my home! I told him, I wasn't working and that I needed help. He said I will give you money for rent nothing will change, I just don't want to go back. I love you but I can't. He didn't take any clothes.
I lost it and ended up in a hospital with a mental break down. He knew about it but never came to see me or text me at all.
I texted him last night telling him, that reaching that breaking point was it for me. I said I never understood that you needed space, I accepted now but I want you to be ok. I am letting you go because I love you. Reach out whenever you are able to.
He asked me to leave him some clothes and stuff in the laundry room downstairs, we live in an apartment and that he would pick it up. He doesn't want to see me.
I love him and I know I did everything wrong. I don't think he will come back but I hope he does. If he does, I would want therapy for both of us to have a healthy relationship.
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