Nelson2015
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I met my (ex) fiancé in high school. He graduated a year before me and joined the army. He was in the military for 2 years before he was medically discharged. He was hurt in Afghanistan. He had a wife who he says cheated on him. They divorced. Now idk what to believe.
We talked for about 8 months before he came home and we're inseparable when he did come home. We moved in together about 6 months after he came home, and we just knew we were going to spend the rest of our lives together. After almost 2 years on being together he asked me to marry him. Obviously we were over the moon.
After about 6 months of being enagged and lots of financial / family problems he started acting weird. The person that never wanted to be away from me was now wanting to stay at his friends house, and he was lying to do so. I obviously thought he was cheating on me, but have since decided that he just would never do that. And I truly don't think he is or was.
After about a week of being a completely different person (angry, never home, and just distant) I ended up saying wow... You are miserable aren't you. He said yes and told me that he hasn't been happy for months. He was diagnosed at clinically depressed. He has combat Ptsd with TBI. He was seeing flash backs and told me that I was his trigger. I then told him to go stay with his friend.a few days later he told me that we can't be together.
I have read up on Ptsd and just don't know what to think. First he says we are done for good. Now he says let's see what the future holds. He doesn't love me but says we may fall in love again. I just don't know what to do. Does he love me? Why did he do this to me? I didn't know what was wrong until it was too late. We still talk. It's a very civil breakup. And he knows that I will always be there for him. What should I do? What is he dealing with?
He has opened up to me slightly since we broke up, and he says the flashbacks have gone away around me, but are still there. His anger around me scares him.
He says he is getting hell, but he has been lying to me about the most random things. And now I feel that he lied before he came home to me too... Our relationship was very honest until now.
Help?
I met my (ex) fiancé in high school. He graduated a year before me and joined the army. He was in the military for 2 years before he was medically discharged. He was hurt in Afghanistan. He had a wife who he says cheated on him. They divorced. Now idk what to believe.
We talked for about 8 months before he came home and we're inseparable when he did come home. We moved in together about 6 months after he came home, and we just knew we were going to spend the rest of our lives together. After almost 2 years on being together he asked me to marry him. Obviously we were over the moon.
After about 6 months of being enagged and lots of financial / family problems he started acting weird. The person that never wanted to be away from me was now wanting to stay at his friends house, and he was lying to do so. I obviously thought he was cheating on me, but have since decided that he just would never do that. And I truly don't think he is or was.
After about a week of being a completely different person (angry, never home, and just distant) I ended up saying wow... You are miserable aren't you. He said yes and told me that he hasn't been happy for months. He was diagnosed at clinically depressed. He has combat Ptsd with TBI. He was seeing flash backs and told me that I was his trigger. I then told him to go stay with his friend.a few days later he told me that we can't be together.
I have read up on Ptsd and just don't know what to think. First he says we are done for good. Now he says let's see what the future holds. He doesn't love me but says we may fall in love again. I just don't know what to do. Does he love me? Why did he do this to me? I didn't know what was wrong until it was too late. We still talk. It's a very civil breakup. And he knows that I will always be there for him. What should I do? What is he dealing with?
He has opened up to me slightly since we broke up, and he says the flashbacks have gone away around me, but are still there. His anger around me scares him.
He says he is getting hell, but he has been lying to me about the most random things. And now I feel that he lied before he came home to me too... Our relationship was very honest until now.
Help?