This is my situation with my Boyfriend, him and I being together for 1 year and 4 months, both of us 28, living at home with our own families, and well sadly things have not gotten better. They have gotten worse. I am crying every single day, and his PTSD keeps going up and up, why because of the abuse I am doing to him, due to his past and his ex-girlfriend, who was also abusive to him. Me yelling and screaming, putting him down, not being supportive enough, showing empathy, appreciation, and all that, makes the PTSD worse, and I end up having him not want to hang out or talk to me at all, because he feels drained, miserable, unhappy, depressed, sad, anxious, nervous, etc.
Its not my fault, he upsets me and I get upset towards what he does. But he expects me to help fix his PTSD, be there for him, when I am trying but its not good enough. I really don't know what to do, I want to be there for him I do but its hard for me. I have never been with someone thats dealt with so many mental issues before, this guy deals with PTSD, ADD, ADHD, anxiety, depression, social anxiety, social phobia, etc.
The only things I've dealt with when my previous partners was one was bipolar and the others had diabetes. I again just feel I am making matters worse. I don't know what to do, to help him. He is taking medication and is seeing a 1 on 1 but it isn't helping him enough I guess. He says he needs to save what medication, a month's supply at that, for himself, and he needs to focus on himself, keep his health in check etc.
He says if I make his PTSD go up, then that causes him to take his medication, and he can't save that medication for when him and I gota hang out or go to an event or whatever. Me, I have always loved and cared for others, putting their happiness before mine, going out of my way for everyone etc. But then I have this other side of me, that has this angry and attitude problem, having a FU, I don't care, whatever, thats not my problem, so what, so etc. Due to my upbringing of being spoiled, being an only child etc.
I really don't know what more I can do, but I am really scared and don't want to loose him.
Its not my fault, he upsets me and I get upset towards what he does. But he expects me to help fix his PTSD, be there for him, when I am trying but its not good enough. I really don't know what to do, I want to be there for him I do but its hard for me. I have never been with someone thats dealt with so many mental issues before, this guy deals with PTSD, ADD, ADHD, anxiety, depression, social anxiety, social phobia, etc.
The only things I've dealt with when my previous partners was one was bipolar and the others had diabetes. I again just feel I am making matters worse. I don't know what to do, to help him. He is taking medication and is seeing a 1 on 1 but it isn't helping him enough I guess. He says he needs to save what medication, a month's supply at that, for himself, and he needs to focus on himself, keep his health in check etc.
He says if I make his PTSD go up, then that causes him to take his medication, and he can't save that medication for when him and I gota hang out or go to an event or whatever. Me, I have always loved and cared for others, putting their happiness before mine, going out of my way for everyone etc. But then I have this other side of me, that has this angry and attitude problem, having a FU, I don't care, whatever, thats not my problem, so what, so etc. Due to my upbringing of being spoiled, being an only child etc.
I really don't know what more I can do, but I am really scared and don't want to loose him.