anthony
Founder
Hi Chantico and Damiea, both welcome to the forum.
Chantico, I think what your saying is quite accurate towards not becoming stuck within a destructive relationship, one where one feels compelled to stay for all the wrong reasons, instead of the right reasons. Often one feels the other will change, but they don't, and even if they do, can the other really forgive them for all those wrongs?
Your case is a little more interesting though, and I can see exactly where bec was coming from in relation to reading your story, in that it does sound more like one from a sufferer than a carer. I say that because you have endure years of trauma uniquely before meeting this other who then continued that abuse cycle you outlined, being the attraction to others that understand you because they have suffered similar. All a bad thing, though we often must only learn that from experience.
I say well done to you for your efforts, though I must say honestly, not only is this possibly about you as a carer, but maybe as a person who needs to heal their own trauma!
Chantico, I think what your saying is quite accurate towards not becoming stuck within a destructive relationship, one where one feels compelled to stay for all the wrong reasons, instead of the right reasons. Often one feels the other will change, but they don't, and even if they do, can the other really forgive them for all those wrongs?
Your case is a little more interesting though, and I can see exactly where bec was coming from in relation to reading your story, in that it does sound more like one from a sufferer than a carer. I say that because you have endure years of trauma uniquely before meeting this other who then continued that abuse cycle you outlined, being the attraction to others that understand you because they have suffered similar. All a bad thing, though we often must only learn that from experience.
I say well done to you for your efforts, though I must say honestly, not only is this possibly about you as a carer, but maybe as a person who needs to heal their own trauma!