I have a special person in my life that may be suffering from PTSD. He's Special Forces, and been deployed a lot. We met in October and things have been wonderful, until recently. He has only ever brought it up in a conversation once, and when i decided to re-visit it later, he got Very angry , snapped, and asked if i was a pshychiatrist. So I dropped it for the time being. Meanwhile, I started doing some research and found similarities in behavior. He's been more agumentative, flying off the handle, he's admitted to his alcohol use increasing and then "getting a handle on it" again. He's spending a lot more time concerned about who's doing what in his town, and following the crime postings in the paper. He's even made comments about people "coming up the stairs behind him and "getting him" in his apartment. He has trouble sleeping, but thinks everyone does, and has made comments that people think that hes "changed" since he came back. He's starting to mis-trust me, and thinks Im accusing him. He went from hot to cold, litterally, overnight.
Although, We knew it was perfect early on, I had plans of moving, (he's in another state), finishing my career, so i could travel with him, and possibly have kids (hes 41, im 35--- not our first time in a relationship, we knew what we wanted). Now after a small argument over a poor choice of words that hurt my feelings, he has decided to be passive aggressive and isn't returning my calls. I had sent him a few lengthy e-mails, he responded to a couple, but has shut me out again. This is NOT the man I knew, theres something really wrong. im not sure how to bring it up to him again, without pushing him further away. Does anyone have any thoughts??
Although, We knew it was perfect early on, I had plans of moving, (he's in another state), finishing my career, so i could travel with him, and possibly have kids (hes 41, im 35--- not our first time in a relationship, we knew what we wanted). Now after a small argument over a poor choice of words that hurt my feelings, he has decided to be passive aggressive and isn't returning my calls. I had sent him a few lengthy e-mails, he responded to a couple, but has shut me out again. This is NOT the man I knew, theres something really wrong. im not sure how to bring it up to him again, without pushing him further away. Does anyone have any thoughts??