Last time I was in therapy, my therapist talked me through how it's normal and acceptable to feel multiple things toward a person. I struggle greatly with deciding my attitudes toward and perceptions of others. I want to decide if I like or dislike someone, to have it be solid, known, but with some people I flip flop. Like my abusers. Such as, I can hate a part of a person for what they do, but that is not entirely who they are. My mother is, deep down, a very caring person. It's just a fact about her, but it manifests in different ways. She'll be very controlling, angry and hurtful because she wants to make sure I do a, b, c. In her eyes, I will be well off if I follow every thing she says. I hate that part about her, and I hate how nasty she gets. Well, honestly I hate a lot of her. At the same time, I love her and it's conflicting. I want to decide on one feeling but the world isn't binary.
My therapist is teaching me that that's okay. Does anyone else struggle with this? I'm not sure if I conveyed what I was trying to say correctly. If it doesn't make sense, I'll try to clarify.
My therapist is teaching me that that's okay. Does anyone else struggle with this? I'm not sure if I conveyed what I was trying to say correctly. If it doesn't make sense, I'll try to clarify.