My Traumatic Stress - A New All Trauma Community If you're having a difficult time with a minor or major traumatic event, not PTSD specific, we now support all trauma types at My Traumatic Stress community. No diagnosis required. My husband was recently diagnosed with OCD and PTSD. On September 16 he decided (after being started on Lexapro) that he did not know his feelings for me after 17 years of marriage and we are currently separated. He has always had issues with being controlling and has had trouble managing finances. He handed all the finances, so now I am just "thrown to the wolves" so to speak as he has walked out and left my child and I along with all the bills. He has always had issues with anger since we were married, but it has seemed to escalate. Our child has been diagnosed wtih ADHD and now in retrospect, I can see how that would aggravate his current conditions. He in May spanked our child and left bruises. I had him seek counselling for this where he was diagnosed with OCD. We went to the counselling sessions, but really he did not listen to anything the counsellor said. The counsellor told him that he was playing "mind games" with me in the marriage and that he was not being honest with me and that he did not know which one of us would leave the marriage, but before long one of us would. Within 1-2 weeks, my husband left me. Says he is never coming back, etc... Not sure of his feelings for me, and seems "detached" from me and my child. His parents think he has suffered a nervous break down as mental illness runs in the family. He has told the psychologist that diagnosed the PTSD that he was abused as a child and I have spoken with the family and they said he was never abused as a child. Right now he lives with his parents whom he has told has abused him. I just don't understand what has happened to my husband. He was a loving person to me, other than the controlling part and the anger part. I could deal with him getting angry, but could not deal with him hurting our child and certainly cannot deal with the fact that he has separated from me and is talking of divorce and does not know his feelings for me, when we have always loved each other since the day we met. Could the drug cause this? I have looked this up on the internet and it said sometimes people will leave their spouses when on an antidepressant and it will not be because they do not love their spouse, but because of the drug. I would hate to lose my "sweetie" and my child not have a good relationship with his father because of a drug. I am about at the end of my rope and do not understand the diagnosis of PTSD when everyone in the family says my husband was not abused. He received spankings, but not to the point of abuse. My husband on the other hand did abuse my child on that one instance and I had to put a stop to it. Now he says he had to separate from me because "his nerves are so bad" that he would hurt himself, me or my child. Then he started the "crap" about not loving me. One day he is like himself when I talk to him and the next day he wants nothing to do with me or my child and is very distant. I just do not understand this at all. Help!!!!!