over the years i have learnt to look at issues that are causing me problems to look at them and deal with them and take the pain that comes with it, i have learnt that things dont get better if you run or hide from them that they just stay there, i have been in some bad relationships in the past and so have very poor self imaage and feel insecure at times, i face this, but i have noticed with the lass i am seeing that she has some things going on from her past which means she will be open and caring and then just cut me out all of a sudden without any notice, she has some thing bothering her from her past and i dont think she knows it yet, she sees some ghost of something and instead of realising its a ghost just shuts off and i dont hear from her for a while, any time i get close to her and past all those outer defences things are great for a while, then this ghost of whatever it is raises its head, as far as i can gather she has a ghost which means she has trouble dealing with real feeling rather than shallow everyday gloss at times, she doesnt think she is clever,shes got two degrees!! and has a self styled dumb blonde no one pays me any attention to me thing going on, well i can see past the pretence and the act and like her anyway, she doesnt understand that its her i like at times, self worth thing going on? well im the screwed up one, im insecure stressed and get more than a bit annoyed at get dropped like a hot potato when this ghost rears its head, i cant make her look at whatever it is thats she is running and hiding from, but i want to say something as i am hurt every time she does this, im not like most people i dont bounce back that easily and end up hurt, she doesnt mean to do it, just the way of things, so based on the fact im supposed to be the nutty one, what does people think is the way forward? dont want to give up on her yet, but cant go on with her running away and hiding from whatever it is bothering her, it leaves me feeling crepe for ages and does me no good when this happens, ok how do you deal with this? when your the one with the problems and the one whos relatively ''normal'' has something which needs addressing.