Myanxietyhasanxiety
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I'm exactly the same way. I am not able to identify with "why" or "who" or "what" exactly triggers me, but people exhaust me. I'm drained after spending too much time with people.
And it's not that I'm not insightful, I have been told by my therapist and others that I'm extremely insightful. So that's not the problem.
I have come to my own conclusions on it. (Admittedly could be off base ) but for me personally (not saying you) but I think it's a boundries issue.
I am very aware of my personal boundries, but unfortunately, not everyone is so self aware. So I feel people test my boundries constantly. It leaves me exhausted.
I like to try to find the humor in it. Find a reason to laugh at how ridiculous it is. My favorite thing to tell myself is "yep, that's another reason I'm in therapy. I'm in therapy to learn how to deal with people that should be in therapy"
If I can get myself to laugh about it, it doesn't seem to hurt so much.
But I like to always have a ecape, "out", or a quick polite way to shut things down if I feel others are intrusive. (Examples: bathroom break emergency, changing subject, going quiet, leave area) anything in my control at the time.
Then I decompress. Mediate. Deep breathing. Get myself oriented to the Now of time, place, present.
Hope that helps.
And it's not that I'm not insightful, I have been told by my therapist and others that I'm extremely insightful. So that's not the problem.
I have come to my own conclusions on it. (Admittedly could be off base ) but for me personally (not saying you) but I think it's a boundries issue.
I am very aware of my personal boundries, but unfortunately, not everyone is so self aware. So I feel people test my boundries constantly. It leaves me exhausted.
I like to try to find the humor in it. Find a reason to laugh at how ridiculous it is. My favorite thing to tell myself is "yep, that's another reason I'm in therapy. I'm in therapy to learn how to deal with people that should be in therapy"
If I can get myself to laugh about it, it doesn't seem to hurt so much.
But I like to always have a ecape, "out", or a quick polite way to shut things down if I feel others are intrusive. (Examples: bathroom break emergency, changing subject, going quiet, leave area) anything in my control at the time.
Then I decompress. Mediate. Deep breathing. Get myself oriented to the Now of time, place, present.
Hope that helps.