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I've been wondering if what we perceive ourselves to be influences our behaviors.
Seems fairly obvious to say that like this, of course it does. But what I'm wondering is, if we see ourselves as bad people, deserving of abuse, revictimizing ourselves, then having periods of "I don't deserve this sh*t" and acting out, sometimes with bad coping skills, are we honestly seeing ourselves for who we are...?
I'm not perfect, but I have good qualities. Someone pointed them out to me recently and I teared up and became incredibly depressed, because I don't see myself as worthy of flattery.
We grow and go to therapy to treat this skewed self perception, trying to make our lives worth living after being robbed of self worth, especially us with less than nurturing parents (not comparing trauma, just saying it's different, not better or worse) that grew up thinking we were failures just for being in existence..
I just want to say with this, that even with lousy self perception, what drives us to be better people should be aknowledged in all of us. I don't know anything healthier than developing coping skills for the evils of the world and fighting those demons every day.
You all have my respect.
Seems fairly obvious to say that like this, of course it does. But what I'm wondering is, if we see ourselves as bad people, deserving of abuse, revictimizing ourselves, then having periods of "I don't deserve this sh*t" and acting out, sometimes with bad coping skills, are we honestly seeing ourselves for who we are...?
I'm not perfect, but I have good qualities. Someone pointed them out to me recently and I teared up and became incredibly depressed, because I don't see myself as worthy of flattery.
We grow and go to therapy to treat this skewed self perception, trying to make our lives worth living after being robbed of self worth, especially us with less than nurturing parents (not comparing trauma, just saying it's different, not better or worse) that grew up thinking we were failures just for being in existence..
I just want to say with this, that even with lousy self perception, what drives us to be better people should be aknowledged in all of us. I don't know anything healthier than developing coping skills for the evils of the world and fighting those demons every day.
You all have my respect.