Hello all,
I’ve been going off and on to marriage councillors for the past 2 and a half years. Not really going into the details of the affairs, that’s all been covered over the past two and a half years through therapy and many a late night talks. Needless to say it was the worst thing I've ever had to deal with. Things got really bad a year and a half ago when new details, more lovers etc were found out. So we have dealt with issues, cried and talked, we have had our ups and downs.
The first few months were horrible, nightmares, panic attacks, flashing thoughts I don’t control of sexual images with her and him, etc.
Was prescribed lexapro, 2 months of relief and sleep, I was a different person, a bit zombish, and a few months in the thoughts and panic attack were less frequent and less painful. Then the new news hit a year ago, and bam my brain starts pounding me with the panic attacks and a forbidding doom squeezing my heart. Wake up from horrible dreams, cry out of nowhere, its freaking crazy. Sometimes there is no trigger at all, something just hits out of the blue.
So last month things are haunting me and I tell the wife we gotta go back into therapy. We find a new guy, we both really like. Within the third session he looks at me and says you have PTSD and I want you to go see a specialist for a few sessions by your self.
Me and the wife have really worked through a lot of our issues, but my being stuck in the past and not letting go has not let us get off the roller coaster of living in the past. I've felt bad about this but I've tried to explain to her that it is not like I'm trying to torture her, hurt her on purpose by being distant or depressed allot
I try to explain I'm not doing it on purpose, so I guess my brain is doing this crap to me because it can’t handle processing the traumatic events.?
I’ve read allot in the past 2 days about PTSD and feel really uneducated about it.
I have 3 real questions...
My doc wants me to go see a specialist in neuro lingual therapy,, thoughts?
Any advice or suggestions for helping my spouse deal with my PTSD?
Anyone else suffer this hell from a spouse’s affair, and has anything helped stop your PTSD caused from it?
Thanks all
Bern
I’ve been going off and on to marriage councillors for the past 2 and a half years. Not really going into the details of the affairs, that’s all been covered over the past two and a half years through therapy and many a late night talks. Needless to say it was the worst thing I've ever had to deal with. Things got really bad a year and a half ago when new details, more lovers etc were found out. So we have dealt with issues, cried and talked, we have had our ups and downs.
The first few months were horrible, nightmares, panic attacks, flashing thoughts I don’t control of sexual images with her and him, etc.
Was prescribed lexapro, 2 months of relief and sleep, I was a different person, a bit zombish, and a few months in the thoughts and panic attack were less frequent and less painful. Then the new news hit a year ago, and bam my brain starts pounding me with the panic attacks and a forbidding doom squeezing my heart. Wake up from horrible dreams, cry out of nowhere, its freaking crazy. Sometimes there is no trigger at all, something just hits out of the blue.
So last month things are haunting me and I tell the wife we gotta go back into therapy. We find a new guy, we both really like. Within the third session he looks at me and says you have PTSD and I want you to go see a specialist for a few sessions by your self.
Me and the wife have really worked through a lot of our issues, but my being stuck in the past and not letting go has not let us get off the roller coaster of living in the past. I've felt bad about this but I've tried to explain to her that it is not like I'm trying to torture her, hurt her on purpose by being distant or depressed allot
I try to explain I'm not doing it on purpose, so I guess my brain is doing this crap to me because it can’t handle processing the traumatic events.?
I’ve read allot in the past 2 days about PTSD and feel really uneducated about it.
I have 3 real questions...
My doc wants me to go see a specialist in neuro lingual therapy,, thoughts?
Any advice or suggestions for helping my spouse deal with my PTSD?
Anyone else suffer this hell from a spouse’s affair, and has anything helped stop your PTSD caused from it?
Thanks all
Bern