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I have struggled with the decision about when/if it is the right time to tell a partner. I was married for 10 years and lived with another man for 9 years, and never told either of them about my trauma. I loved both of them dearly and I did trust them, but . . . I remained silent for 34 years. Shame, guilt, and denial played a big part.
Red: Thanks for sharing. That is a long time to hide your trauma and emotions over 34 years of silence. How did that make you feel? Did you feel like you just wanted to explode because you wanted so bad to share, but something just kept holding you back?
You mention that guilt, denial, and shame played a big part....i have a question for you. My ex is a Iraq/Afghan vet, and is also currently in Iraq with a govt office job. He told me that he feels embarrased about his issue. He never told me he has ptsd, nor did he confirm that he has any other type of mental issue to deal with. He described it as a weakness actually, and that he is incredibly embarrased about it. I'm not sure what he meant by that? I don't understand what the embarrasing part relates to?
Maybe you could shed some light on that since you also said that you feel shame over your trauma?