It is shared breaking. All the pains of a marriage are shared.I have grieved a few times but it always tends to break her more in the process.
No, I don't right now, because I have to find a meal for my poorly husband that doesn't set off my very odd kitchen related triggers. But I will have time to read about the over the next two days. It may well take you that long to begin to express them, so that will fit nicely.My other terrible situations? I don't think you have time to read a book on here...
I do suspect very strongly that your part in moving all this forward is to resolve those faulty lessons that say
I've always had to be an island and stay strong
You can't be an island in a marriage, it involves too many defences and drawbridges.