Two very stressful, typical American, family-stuffed holidays are fast approaching in the next 8 weeks, and I am having a very serious problem that I need your advice on, please. I am about to lose another best friend. Last year at Thanksgiving my husband and I were invited to another friend's house to celebrate, and I thought it was okay with the host for me and my husband to invite Amy, since she was going to be alone on Thanksgiving otherwise. So I invited her. Then, the host told me no, that the guest list was getting too long, so with a heavy heart, I had to tell Amy that she was not invited. That was hard for all of us, and it hurt our friendship, but I thought we resolved it last November. I really screwed up. What happened was, at Amy's insistince, we went to the host's house and did not contact Amy all day on Thanksgiving. Fast Forward one year. We are planning this year's Thanksgiving, at the house of a mutual friend, including out of state cousins of that friend, about 20 people total, but the stress is not bad because they are not our relatives, but the relatives of the mutual friend. Amy dropped a bomb on me last night--she insists that she was never invited to Thanksgiving by the mutual friend, but my husband and I were invited because we are more important than she is, and that she is strongly considering ending the friendships because we planned Thanksgiving without her then talk about it in front of her when she is not invited, rubbing her nose in it. Then she brings up last year's Thanksgiving mistake, and there's a 2-year pattern of her being excluded, overlooked, left out. I want to hear all your thoughts on this, please.